2012 – A Review

At the beginning of 2012 I wrote a blog post about how my word for 2012 would be ACTION.  Now we’re a couple of weeks into 2013, settling back into our daily routines after our holidays, I’ve had some time to reflect back on the year that was.

2012 Wordle

2012 was a good year for us Van Wyk’s. It was not perfect, it had up’s and it had down’s but it was still overall a good year.   Our word for the year was Action and it certainly was an action packed year. We sold our home of 10 years in just 4 days and within a month had packed up and moved.

We finally made a decision about emigrating, after years of procrastinating, we’re not going, we’re staying right here!

We gained and then lost a son after our second adoption placement went horribly wrong.  Or that’s how it seemed at the time. I was overcome by bitter disappointment and heart broken for what we had lost. But with time, healing and perspective and without going into detail to protect Baby K, I now know beyond a shadow of a doubt that Walter and I were a tool to bring stability to Baby K’s life, to reunite him with his birth father and to bring peace and healing to his birth mother. So while it was a painful experience, at the end of the day, even though Baby K will never remember us or know us, we know that we have played an integral part in his  life, he never was our son, we were sent to him for only a short time but that time had far reaching effects for all involved.

Somewhere in the last few months, I have found peace with the wait for our second placement. As Ava gets older and gains more and more independence  moving further and further away from a helpless baby and into a strong willed little girl, life has become easier and easier and with that I’ve found peace that we may never have a second child, that perhaps she will be an only child and will be ok, we will be ok.

2012 has also been the year of friendship, I’ve made some amazing new friends and maintained some very special friendships too. It’s also been a year where I finally learned to forgive an old friend for a deep hurt caused. I learned from that that forgiveness is all about my well being and has little to do with anyone else, forgiving set me free from the hurt and from the bitterness, by forgiving I was able to let go, let go of the hurt feelings that had held me back for so long and also let go of the memory of that person, it’s been truly liberating.

2012 ended with a great business opportunity, something I’m working on in the back ground and if it comes to fruition, something I will share with you all and expect hope that you will support this business venture.

I’m still thinking about my word for 2013, there are a few that come to mind but none that have completely gelled.  When I know what it is, I’ll be sure to share it.

For now, wishing us all health, wealth and happiness in abundance during 2013.

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  • Reply Fiona

    Happy New Year Sharon!
    2012 was definitely your year of action. It must feel good to look back and realize the word you chose a year ago came to light.

    January 8, 2013 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Sian

    Happy New Year Shaz! I am glad that you have decided to stay put in SA. You know I enjoy our time together and hope to spend more in 2013. Just my two cents…..I can’t imagine a second adoption never happening for you. It just feels like it must! xxxx

    January 8, 2013 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply Jeanette

    It certain was an action packed year for you… wishing you a peaceful year this year 🙂

    January 8, 2013 at 1:10 pm
  • Reply Elize

    Your word should be AWESOME! You’re an awesome friend, you have an awesome opportunity and you will hopefully be blessed with an awesome sibling for Ava! Believing that 2013 will be an awesome year for you and Walter and Ava. Happy New Year!

    January 8, 2013 at 1:59 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Aaaah! Thanks my love! xxx

      January 9, 2013 at 8:49 am
  • Reply Juanita

    Wishing you a wonderful 2013. Cannot wait to hear about the new business venture!

    January 8, 2013 at 7:26 pm
  • Reply Jenny

    Acceptance? But that seems too passive for you!

    January 9, 2013 at 1:09 pm
  • Reply Lisa-Marie

    My special friend. What a roller coaster year for you; but you are so incredibly strong and inspiring and you came through all the heartache with your head held high! And I am so happy and blessed to have been there with you on your visits down here.
    I wish for you that 2013 will be a successful one – in every way.
    Love u heaps.

    January 10, 2013 at 5:35 am
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