Do your kids do chores around the house? Do they earn pocket money?
I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. At what age is it time for my kids, more specifically Ava, to start taking on some responsibility for chores around the house and being paid for those chores?
I know when I was growing up, we each, both my brother and I, had a set of chores we were required to do, nothing huge, simple things like making our own beds, tidying our own rooms, making tea and sweeping the leaves around the pool area on a Saturday morning. That last one, I hated with a passion, I remember my dad and I having many debates over why I had to do this seemingly laborious task. Funny, as an adult, spending 20 minutes outside mindlessly sweeping up leaves doesn’t seem like such a big deal now, but as a tween & teen, I hated it!
The pocket money is about so much more than the money for me as well. I see it as a way to teach Ava reward for her work/contribution to our house hold. An opportunity to also learn the value of money, having it and not having it and to teach her about saving as well. But she is only 4 & a half, so I also don’t want to be ridiculous about it.
I took to Twitter last week and asked parents to share their insights, what was age appropriate and reasonable and I got some really interesting responses. First off, the image below, from StaceyVee was really helpful as it made me realize my expectations were not unrealistic.
Of the list for 4-5 year olds, I had been thinking that Ava should be responsible for the following:
- Carrying her own school bag into the house after school & packing it away.
- Taking her empty school water bottles to the kitchen
- Throwing her dirty clothes in the laundry basket
- Tidying up her room
- Packing away the toys in the playroom
- Helping to feed the dogs
- Throwing away her own litter/rubbish
- Cleaning up spills
Obviously the list will be re-looked as she gets older and Hannah will also get her own list of responsibilities at some point too.
I know some folk that responded to my Twitter question said they didn’t pay pocket money, but this is something I really want to do as I think there are a number of important lessons to be learned.
- Earning your keep (sounds so old fashioned but I want her/them to understand that money is earned, not just given. You don’t do your chores, you don’t earn the money.
- The value of saving
But I’m really not sure how much is appropriate for a 4 year old to “earn”. Walter and I have been talking about this and Ava is expecting her first pocket money pay out next week Friday (she’ll be earning a monthly allowance) but we still have not agreed on a figure.
I was thinking in the region of R80 a month. R40 of which will be automatically transferred into her very own savings account & R40 of which she can spend on whatever she wants, like the R80 candy floss at Disney On Ice last week or some of the other random things her heart desires. I feel it’s an important lesson for her to learn, understanding the value of money and how it can or can’t be used, what it can and can’t buy and of course what it’s like to not have it.
Do you pay pocket money? And if yes, how much, if no, I’m also interested to hear why not?
Lastly, can anyone point me in the direction of where I can get a customized chores chart made?
Also be sure to read the below interesting links on age appropriate chores & allowances: