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Parenting is a funny thing, just when you think you’ve got it all figured out, know what to expect and how to plan and anticipate your baby’s needs, the cheeky monkey’s will throw you a curve ball.

Case in point… yesterday I did a blog posting about how I loved motherhood, we’d had a great week, Ava had done some seriously cute things that had completley melted my heart and last night she threw us a complete curve ball that left us scratching our heads…

Her usual bedtime routine did not work out at all, instead of getting drowsy at 7pm while having her last bottle, she got increasingly hyper, little arms waving around, touching my face, grabbing my hair, staring up at me with big round eyes. This does happen from time to time but usually if I plonk her in her cot after a few minutes she will settle and drop off to sleep. Ha! Not last night. Last night, it took an hour and a half of baby talk mixed with shouting and me waring a pathway on our floors walking back to her room before she eventually went off to sleep.

*sigh* now I can get ready for bed too! Drop off to sleep and wake up, withing minutes of falling asleep, or at least it felt that way, to lots of baby shouting. Check the time – 11pm! Out the bed and down to her room, after feeling satisfied that nothing was wrong, after doing a nappy change, checking her temperature and giving her some juice, I left her again. Still no luck, the yelling, babbling, chatting, crying went on until 2am this morning. I tried all the old tricks, dummies which were smacked away, rocking, which resulted in lots of wriggling to get away.

I’m a natural anxious person and the longer this went on the more anxious I became, watching the minutes and hours tick by, knowing I had to get up in a few short hours for work and some how have a productive day at the office after almost no sleep. Eventually I did something that I feel really guilty about…

I medicated her, I gave her a dose of Nurofen Pediatric Syrup and within 20 minutes she was lights out! Of course, then I couldn’t fall asleep, party because I was feeling guilty about medicating my perfectly healthy child, and because its was now getting closer to 3am and I had to get up within a couple of hours.

All I can hope and pray for is that this was a once off incident, it has never happened before and I’m praying it won’t be happening again anytime soon.

But if it does, what are some of the potential solutions? I told Walter if she does it again, I’m just going to put a bunch of toys in her cot, get a night light for her room so its not to dark, and just leave her. Let her play to her hearts content till she drops back off to sleep.

Any tips???

September 10, 2010
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16 Comments

  • Reply coachmarcia

    When they’re acting up (it happens more and more), I simply put off the light but leave the door slightly open so there’s a bit of light, put on their sleep CD and go. They jump around their cots for a while (longest has been 20 minutes) and then they eventually pass out 🙂 But I take all the toys away and only leave a teddy and their dummy so they’re not encouraged to play…

    September 10, 2010 at 9:46 am
    • Reply Sharon

      That’s pretty much what I did last night and I was completley unsuccessful.

      September 10, 2010 at 10:00 am
  • Reply natasjap

    I think you did the right thing. I have also medicated my healthy boy on the odd occasion, as I know him and his routine, and once he doesn’t stick to it, who says that he doesn’t have pain somewhere? Usually the next night will be back to normal. Don’t feel guilty, the fact that she fell asleep means that maybe she had pain and the medicine helped. Good luck for tonight!

    September 10, 2010 at 9:49 am
  • Reply aussiekim

    My tip is acceptance….

    Babies just like adults can have the occasional “off” day/s and also nights when for no apparent reason they are restless and can’t sleep. I have a very similar personality type to you Sharon. I am a Mrs Fixit and look for answers and solutions and if I couldn’t find them anxiety would once creep in. What I learnt along the way was the harder you fight the situation or try to force it to be how you think it should be/want it to be, the less success you have. You become anxious and they pick up on it and on it goes. The more you worry about how many hrs sleep you are missing the more frazzled and stressed you become. So my anwser is to just accept and “be” in the moment and relax (difficult as that is when you are exhausted).
    Not sure if they have this product in Sth Africa, but I spray our childrens bedrooms and pillowcases/linen lightly with this each night and they are in the land of nod in no time at all. It is particularly great for days when they are perhaps over tired/stressed/anxious/unwell. It is all natural so that has to be a good thing~!

    Have a read of the products advertising blurb.
    http://www.fgb.com.au/product/bosistos/bosistos-lavender-spray

    Much luv and hugs to you~!

    Kimmie
    x

    September 10, 2010 at 10:01 am
  • Reply aussiekim

    PS not just for the kids, I use it on our bed linen as well, smells divine (not overpowering) and is ever so relaxing!

    September 10, 2010 at 10:06 am
  • Reply lea2109

    Maybe if you offered some water instead of juice? Maybe she’s just thirsty but the sugar in the juice might make her a bit more hyper? Not sure. Maybe she’s going through a growth spurt? Maybe she has an ear infection? Otherwise, toys in the cot, night light so it’s not too dark, switch off the monitor and this way she will learn to fall asleep after waking up again (without waking you up – if she really needs you you will know). Just remember that with her teething her routine probably got a bit out of whack or it might be that the nap she had before bedtime might need to be a little earlier so that she is tired enough for bedtime. I know that my kids’ naps and sleep routines changed as they became older and whilst we kept the night time the same more or less, the day time one we adjusted as we went along.

    September 10, 2010 at 10:15 am
  • Reply Nisey

    maybe there’s a tooth on the way? more than once i haven’t medicated only to feel enormous guilt because a tooth pops out soon after? sometimes the teeth come without swollen gums or obvious signs?

    September 10, 2010 at 10:18 am
  • Reply little29

    oh I feel your pain – but this is the challenge of motherhood…there is never a constant – just when you think you have something down pat they will change the rules once again to keep you on your toes. I agree with aussiekim to just go with the moment and accept. My two are 3 and 4 yrs old and old bad sleep habits still come back from time to time to kick me in the ass. Never feel guilty about medicating – you never know if something is troubling them and no harm is done if the desired result is acheived – both you and baby get some sleep:-) I bought one of those sleep turtles recently for my 3 year old as I was at my wits end and even though its probably more for younger babies it has worked a charm – it’s a lovely night light that shines little stars and moons around the room (baby city) and for 2 weeks now it has been a great help – Being older I can explain to him that the turtle only sleeps with good boys who stay in their bed – but maybe Ava might like to stare at the stars and put herself to sleep?

    September 10, 2010 at 10:38 am
  • Reply elna3

    I know….. once you think you have figured it out they change and I think that is what children are all about. I would say stick with your routine. The odd night like last night you might need to improvise, and I think you giving her some syrup is fine. She can not actually tell you what she needs, you had checked all the needs and when you gvae her nurofen it did the trick. She might have been sore somewhere or just not feeling well.
    Whith night like those you always worry though that all the night are going to be like this from now on – they wont!!

    September 10, 2010 at 11:33 am
  • Reply mayflowerladybugs

    I agree. Something may have been the matter and the nurofen helped. So don’t beat yourself up too much about it. Plus, I bet the majority of mothers actually do medicate in dire circumstances. Fact is, everybody needs to sleep, baby included and one dose is certainly not going to make any long term difference at all. Personally, if mine wants to play and bounce around in the night, more power to them, but mommy is going to SLEEP. Luckily these difficult nights get less and less as time goes by. I rpomise you by age 4 they are a thing of the past!

    September 10, 2010 at 12:24 pm
  • Reply zamom

    Purely my opinion but just because they don’t have a fever doesn’t mean they’re not sore somewhere. My threshold for giving Calpol is fairly low (when I remember). I would not do the toys in the cot option though. After having 1 child that has slept “like a baby” every night of her life and now having one that has the odd wobbly one every now and then, just keep to your usual routine, things will get back to normal and leaving them to cry for 5 minutes at a time and then just going in to pat and calm down has always worked for us and seems to stop bad habits from starting. I also agree with checking her naps. Ava and Zoe both went down to 2 naps from about 7 months (9am till 11am and then 1pm till 2.30pm). You might need to start waking her up in the afternoons so that she’s ready for bed at 7pm. There is only so long that they sleep in 24 hours so if they’re sleeping too much in the day, they will sleep less at night.

    September 10, 2010 at 12:37 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Thanks! My Ava ( 😉 ) has for the last month started dropping her one nap during the day and now only sleeps for an hour in the mornings and the usually for an hour to an hour and a half around lunch time, the rest of the time she will not nap at all. So I don’t think its too much day time sleep.
      I just read an excellent article on Parenting.com – http://www.parenting.com/article/Baby/Health/The-3-AM-Wake-Up-Call/2
      And I think we’re having a combination of NO. 1 & No. 2 here.

      September 10, 2010 at 12:42 pm
  • Reply wheresmybun

    No tips, just wanted to say good luck!

    September 10, 2010 at 2:05 pm
  • Reply adeleida

    When mine wakes up in the night looking like she thinks it’s playtime now, I put the nightlight on its lowest setting, turn my pillow to the other end of the bed (the cot is at the foot of the bed with the front lowered, so our bed almost flows into it), put my hand somewhere close to her and try and catch a quiet wink while she talks to her teddies. I don’t encourage her being up, I definitely don’t shout at her 🙁 but I try not to interact with her apart from gently assuring her that I’m there. Sometimes she farts around for an hour but she eventually falls asleep. I have heard too many moms whose kids have left the house, and also moms that have a late little one, say that those are also the moments that you miss and should treasure. Somehow because I know she is probably going to be my only one, I find that I treasure these too therefore. And there is a bit of humour in a little five month old talking up a storm to a teddy or a dummy at three in the morning… She usually doesn’t cry though, but if she does, that is probably a sign of teething or tummy ache or a need for a hug, which a bit of meds or a bit of cuddling can remedy. Good luck. As someone else above said, try to stay in the moment and know that at some point, it will not happen anymore and you may miss those middle of the night moments where all she really wanted was you.

    September 11, 2010 at 10:05 pm
  • Reply Hanneke C

    can’t add much but I have found with my ones that they have nightmares sometimes and have been inconsolable in the middle of the night. It takes a bit to settle them. I didn’t realise that this was the reason until the oldest started telling me that she has nightmares (quite a number of years later), a light went on and the unexplainable screaming in the middle of the night now makes sense! Just a thought! Keep up the good work!

    September 13, 2010 at 11:52 am
  • Reply antigone1022

    I think you did the right thing. Her behaviour was out of the ordinary..was she, wet, thirsty, needing comfort etc, you tried all those things first. Was she in pain…who knows, but you did right to try finding out and I would guess she was, from the reaction. So easy to feel guilty but its only out of love, care and worry that we try anything to soothe a sad baby – you did the right thing.

    September 16, 2010 at 2:01 am
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