During our years of infertility, there were so many things that I had looked forward to when, God willing, one day I was a mother. As Ava grows and gets older I have felt privileged to be experiencing so many of the normal milestones that parents get to enjoy.
Yesterday was no exception.
We had our first parent/teacher meeting. It felt so surreal to be perched on a tiny plastic chair in Ava’s classroom yesterday evening, Walter sitting on the carpet and Ava’s teacher sitting opposite us and giving us a run down on our precious little girl. I’m sure she must have thought I was nuts because it was so surreal that I swung between having tears brimming in my eyes and wanting to giggle at the surrealness of it all and also the ridiculous of it all, me… a mother???!!!!
I felt really proud to hear an unbiased party’s take on our little girl and I must say that her teacher has her summed up in pretty much the same was as we do. She’s very stubborn and strong willed. But also very confident. She loves painting and her painting has become more purposeful and is no long just messy swipes on a page. She also enjoys building puzzles and loves to play rough games, I think this is why she enjoys playing with boys as much as playing with the girls.
She’s gotten good with her time outs and will now come out of time out and apologize for whatever it is that she has been put in time out for. At home she’s very good with TO, if I’m the one putting her in TO. Walter however still has a bit of work to do with her here, when he puts her in TO she gets up to all kinds of mischief and does not like to apologize when he brings her out of TO.
She does not like to wait her turn and while this is obviously age appropriate, we will have to work on this at home with her as well. I’m sure, by now, those of you who have been reading my blog for a while, will know, I’m no push over as a mom. I’m very firm with Ava and I don’t give in to her every whim, I don’t allow her to get what she wants and when she wants it and I also don’t allow her to constantly interrupt me if I’m talking to Walter or if we’re doing story time. I will tell her that I’m talking to daddy and she must wait for me to finish, if she wants juice/a book/puzzle/TV on, and I’m quickly busy with something, I will tell her she needs to wait while I am finished. During story time, if she keeps interrupting me I will ask her if she wants to me to keep reading the story and if she does she must stop interrupting the story. If she does continue to be disruptive, I close the book and end story time. Walter is definitely the softer of the two of us and he is going to need to learn to be a little firmer with her as she does need to understand that she can’t always have what she wants when she wants it. Of course, her standard response, which is quite funny and I have to turn my face away so she can’t see me smirking, is when she doesn’t get what she wants when she wants it, she will tell me, and I quote: “It’s not fair!”
The part that made me swell with pride is hearing how well liked Ava is, by both the staff and all her classmates and that she, along with another little girl, is very popular in her class with everyone wanting/fighting to be partnered with her for school activities.
Her best friend is a little boy, Tristan, somehow I’m not surprised because in just about every photo taken at school, Ava and Tristan are almost ALWAYS together. Her teacher did say that she does try to separate them so that they interact with the other children in their class but when given a choice the two will always gravitate towards each other. It does kind of make sense as well as Ava is the youngest in her class and Tristan is also one of the youngest in the class.
Teacher Candice, I know you’re reading this 🙂 so what else did I forget to include?
The thing I took away from our first ever parent teacher meeting is that Ava is a well adjusted, happy and well balanced child and that made me proud, not just of her, but of us too.