If you’ve been following my blog for any length of time, you will know that I really struggled with the decision to keep Ava back and repeat Grade R and that we never took the decision lightly, ensuring that we’d had her properly assessed, met with her teacher and the principle and decided together on the best course of action.
The first day and week’s of this year were especially hard for Ava. She struggled to understand why she was in Grade R when all of her friends were in Grade 1. She was scared and unsettled and I fretted even more over the decision to keep her back.
And now we’re into the second term and many of you have asked how she’s doing and still others have reached out asked for advice on whether or not to keep their kids back in Grade R. So here’s a little update….
It’s the BEST thing we could have done for her!
She has absolutely blossomed in the past few months and honestly, I don’t doubt for a second that we did the best thing for her.
She is a star pupil, she achieved ALL distinctions on her report last term and she’s won 3 Rising Star Awards in the past few months.
Her self belief has tripled and even her teacher has commented on the fact that Ava’s self belief is so strong that she now challenges herself within the classroom. Going over and above on every task given to ensure that what she creates is MORE than what was required, that she puts a personal spin and creativity on everything that she does.
Something inside her has just clicked into place in the past few months. I wish I could explain it better, but she has blossomed. Her understanding of concepts and things blows my mind. Her reading… you guys… her reading and writing, it astounds me.
And her creativity is incredible. I know both of her birth parents have an artistic flare and it’s quite clear she has inherited this. The other day she was recreating the Powerpuff Girls, using an ink pen, you would not believe that a 6 year old drew that. It was amazing.
Best of all. Her teacher has informed us that she is an incredibly popular girl with all the kids vying for her attention and approval in class.
I am so incredibly proud of her achievements and I’ll tell you, there are no words to describe the relief when I say that every meeting and communication we’ve had with her teacher has been filled with nothing but praise for Ava. She has told us that this child is a shining star and if she continues to perform this way, she will fly through any challenge that is presented to her.
So in short. Keeping her back, while a hard decision to make and challenging in the beginning was quite possibly the best thing we could have done for her. And if you are having doubts about your child and about whether you should push them through or keep them back, I’ll say this:
- Get them assessed by an educational psychologist, it’s not cheap but gives tremendous peace of mind.
- Trust your instincts and go with your gut.
I feel that keeping her back has set a foundation for success.