Still seems unreal to say… It was my baby shower yesterday! Yes! Me!? Who would have thought it? I got to have a baby shower! Its still all so completely surreal! Sausage was born 4 weeks ago and although on some levels it feels like she’s always been apart of our lives, on other levels, its still completely surreal, I still cannot believe it and yesterday was another one of those days where I felt I needed to pinch myself!
On of my BFF’s, Sam, organized the whole thing for me, with some help from Tam, Chantal and Abs (thanks girls, I promise to return the favour, hopefully one day soon) and it turned out to be the most perfect day. The venue was stunning – The River Club Cafe, in Sandton. The weather played along perfectly, with some rumbling of thunder and a light smattering of rain later in the day. My Mom flew up from Cape Town for the weekend so that she could also attend, I was really happy about that, its a special time for Mom’s and daughters, like planning a wedding, having a baby brings a mom and daughter even closer together. The food was fabulous, the decor gorgeous, all roses and butterflies (thanks Sam for noting all the small details), we drank champagne and jugs of Pims and in the end it landed up being a full day event, starting just after 10h00 and finished just before 17h00!
What made the day so special was the sentiment that all of my friends and family shared. Before opening gifts, Sam asked that each person take an opportunity to say what Ava’s arrival has meant to each of them. I cried the whole way through, even doing the ugly cry complete with snorting, a couple of times. Its wonderful to know that Ava is not just our (mine & W’s) but that she is a miracle for so many of my IF sisters., that her miraculous arrival into our lives can be a source of inspiration to those closest to me still walking the IF path. That she has restored faith in God in many of my IF sisters, including myself. That she has reminded us all that miracles do happen. I always used to say I believed in miracles but that they just didn’t happen to me, I can no longer say that, I have the greatest miracle and through my miracle, so many of my friends have gained strength and courage to continue on with hope and faith that they too will be grated their miracles! Its knowledge that is extremely powerful but also very humbling.
I also had a chance to say a few words, it was very special for me, a chance to tell my IF sisters that although Ava’s arrival in my life has healed my pain from the last 7 odd years, that I have not forgotten how painful the journey was, that despite what some others may think, I will never forget the pain of the IF path. That despite my beautiful daughter, I will never turn my back on my IF sisters, that I will still be there for each and every one of them every step of the way. That I will stand in the gap and have hope and faith for them in the times when its too dark for them to have it for themselves. That I will encourage each and everyone of them no matter where their journey takes them. And most of all, that when (God willing) each of them welcomes their miracles into their lives, that I would be honoured to celebrate their miracles in the same way that they have celebrated mine.
After that the fun really started. Ava was completely spoiled, we were given so much STUFF that I’m truly starting to run out of place for it all. We have loads of consumables, plenty of hooded towels and blankets and toys and rattles and you name it, we’ve got it by the bucket loads! I can’t thank everyone enough for their generosity! Having a baby doesn’t come cheap but most people have a few months to plan and prepare, we had 7 days from being told we were selected to the birth of our miracle.
Sam, took loads of photo’s and as soon as I have copies of them, I will share them here on my blog, but for now, I wanted to share this with you, I have this friend, this incredible friend, Mich, she lives in Durban. Her IF path was also a difficult one but last year, she too received her miracle, a son. Mich is an artist, in my opinion, a brilliant artist, she painted canvases for her son’s room, they were gorgeous! When I saw them, I told her that if I ever had a child one day, I wanted her to paint something for my baby too. Of course, I forgot all about that discussion in the excitment of Ava’s sudden arrival in our lives. Then, yesterday, at my baby shower, I opened a gift and was so touched and excited and surprised to see that Mich had remembered her promise and she had indeed created the most beautiful paintings for Ava’s bedroom, so here they are:
Of course, being completley OTT, I had W out with the hammer and nails and laser level and hanging these beauties up above Ava’s cot this morning. They look GORGEOUS! I still can’t believe what a spoiled little girl Ava is and in turn how we’ve been spoiled by so many.
Thank you to EVERYONE that made yesterday so specail and precious, it really was a dream come true!