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Can Babies Remember Their Births?

There is a very interesting article in the May edition of Your Baby Mag – Can Babies Remember Their Births?

After reading the article I decided to give it a try with Ava, really not expecting much at all but I was totally blown away by what she said!

She was in the bath and I was sitting on the floor next to her and we were having a little quiet chat, so I thought it would be the perfect time, while I had her undivided attention, to ask her if she remembered and what she remembered. I never asked her any leading questions and I have never discussed her birth with her before so she could not have picked up on anything said to her previously.

She told me she did remember and when I asked her what she remembered she told me that it hurt and she was crying  and there were a lot of people (her birth mother, our social worker, 2 midwives and myself – this part she obviously doesn’t know) and then she got scared.

It kind of all tied in perfectly with what I remember from her birth. She did come out crying but very briefly and our birth mother had requested that she be given to me and as soon as she was placed in my arms she was dead silent and staring and remained that way as she was introduced to Walter as well.

This photo was taken about 20 minutes after birth.

So what are your thoughts? Do you think babies can remember? Do you think it’s a lot of hogwash? I’m nto sure what I think but what if it were true???

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13 Comments

  • Reply aussiekim

    I am open minded re this. The “and then I got scared” made me sad. Perhaps being given to yourself and Walter and not her bio mum – an instinct thing after spending none months inside her bio mum and used to her voice, smell etc?

    May 14, 2012 at 8:44 am
  • Reply Melinda

    Totally believe that they can remember….I have also been told that they can also remember their previous lives (if you believe in that..I do) in the first few years of their lives. As they get older they forget these memories…and fall into what society dictates is normal.

    May 14, 2012 at 8:55 am
  • Reply indiadaisy

    I just shed a tear looking at that picture of you holding Ava! So beautiful…(I am so emotional)

    May 14, 2012 at 10:18 am
  • Reply blackhuff

    I’m also not sure what to think about this whole thing …
    I love that photo of you holding her. Such a special moment.

    May 14, 2012 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply To Love Bella

    Oh I so believe this! I believe that we underestimate our own brain power. I believe that the reason we don’t remember vividly is probably because it was a none-too-pleasant experience.
    Can’t wait to read the article!!

    May 14, 2012 at 1:37 pm
  • Reply Cat@jugglingactoflife

    Well, my hubby remembers back to about age 2 and the Princess just this week recalled somethng that happened when she was about 18 months old – no doubt I am sure some of us will be able to remember that far back . The problem is just that maybe very few are verbally skilled enough to remember and recall at the age where they are still able to remember back

    May 14, 2012 at 2:06 pm
  • Reply Fabulous Mommy

    I would love to know what my boys remember. They are 6 months today. I am looking forward to being able to talk to them and have them talk back.

    May 14, 2012 at 9:41 pm
  • Reply elna3

    I don’t think they can remember. I tried getting some info out of my 3 year old today and she did not have a clue what I was talking about. I think being borne must be a kind of a shock anyway (natural or c-section) after spending the 9 months in the warm, cosy, fluid filled uterus, but I don’t think they remember it or that it is relevant in how they develop etc.

    May 15, 2012 at 5:11 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Elna, I think it’s important to note that at no point in the article or my blog post was there any reference to these memories having an impact on their development. It’s simply about conscious memory.

      May 16, 2012 at 12:11 pm
  • Reply aussiekim

    What do you think Sharon?

    May 16, 2012 at 8:05 am
    • Reply Sharon

      Kim, I’m not convinced either way, however, I do know there is a lot of scientific research going into when the babies conscious memory actually begins and I have a lot of friends who’ve had regressive hypnotherapy who were able to recall memories from inside the womb. My question is this: if a baby has a fully formed brain from inside the womb, then surely their conscious memory is formed then as well? The article does say that some children will just simply answer no, not all children will have an answer and some won’t have the verbal skills to verbalize what they remember however, Ava’s speech is very good and given that we’ve never discussed her birth with her, there is only one way to explain her answer and that is that she must have some memory. I also think that with time memory’s to fade, so if one is going to do this exercise, it does need to be done when they are young but able to verbalize.
      I’m on the fence but I am leaning towards believing it.

      May 16, 2012 at 10:22 am
  • Reply TJ

    I guess I’m on the fence with this one. Though it is very interesting to give it some thought. I can only wait to see if my boys remember or maybe I just get a ‘no’. AG’s recollection (if it’s that) is pretty WOW, considering what we know about it.

    I do agree, I think the memories do fade and that’s why as adults we don’t remember.

    May 16, 2012 at 3:08 pm
  • Reply Melissa

    My first born once referred to his birth, he said it was a sunny day, which it was because the sun was pouring through the curtains, and he said our dog was barking, also true, because I had my birth at home. I asked him if he could remember how he came to mommy and daddy, and those were his replies.

    April 8, 2016 at 12:20 am
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