I’ve been called crazy. I’ve been called paranoid. I’ve been told that I have a “they’re out to get me” attitude. But honestly, when it comes to my children’s safety, I DON’T CARE!
I am a tiger mom. NOTHING and NO ONE is more important than my children.
I blogged yesterday about the incident we had at Ava’s school earlier this week, and in that post, I mentioned that I’d share with you all why I am so overly cautious about what I share about my kids online. Aside from the millions of reasons why, we as parents, need to be cautious online, there is one overwhelming reason why I am as “paranoid” as I am.
The search terms used to find my blog!
And I’m not talking about randomly, one weird search term that crops up, I’m talking about DAILY there is some sick search term that gets some sicko to find my blog. It has made me HYPER aware of what I share about my kids online.
But first, here are just a few examples of the search terms:
These are dinkum. I have not made them up, I have taken them directly from my Jetpack stats:
- little girls nipples
- little girls nips
- little girls loose undies showing privates
- big s.e.x little girls
- big s.e.x. 18
- little girl nakes butt cheeks
- little girl no shirt
- little girl no undies
- preteen p.o.r.n. pics
- small girls being m.o.l.e.s.t.e.d
- r.a.p.e girl body
- mom x.x.x. BJ’s son
I’m going to stop right there, because that’s already enough to make me vomit. And that’s just some examples from the last 30 days!
So yes, call me paranoid. But the internet has opened Pandora’s Box and let all the sick freaks roam free under it’s anonymity. And it’s my job, as my children’s parent, to protect them at all cost. I haven’t always gotten it right, but as the internet grows bigger and bigger, my awareness has grown too and with it, I’ve made some hard and fast rules about what I will and won’t share about my children online, irrespective of where I’m sharing it.
Here are my rules for keeping my children safe online:
- No naked photos shared EVER! The end. Not even half naked. Even bathing suite pictures I’m wary of.
- I don’t tag our location when sharing a photo, unless we’ve already left said location.
- I’ve turned off the GPS settings on apps that share photos.
- I will NEVER disclose the name of my children’s school on my blog. Ever. You can ask me, but if I don’t know you as a friend, in real life, I won’t tell you. I have also informed all my kids schools, in writing, that they MAY NOT share photos of my children online for marketing purposes for the schools.
- I have the highest security settings I could set for Facebook, in terms of privacy settings on my personal profile.
Recently, I’ve even gone so far as to disable right clicking on my blog. This prevents my photos or content from being downloaded or saved. Sure, you can still get a screen grab, but it’s not quite the same.
I am also mindful, when taking photos of other people’s kids, if I intend to use the photos on my blog, to ask their express permission first. If we’re friends on Facebook, you may have also noticed that I will, from time to time, untag myself in your photos if I’m uncomfortable with what was shared or feel it makes my children vulnerable in anyway.
Do you have rules about what you’ll share about your kids online? I’d love to hear them!
Maz recently wrote a post after images of her children were stolen as well, so again, be aware.