Clinic Sisters vs Pead’s & Everyone Inbetween!

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Right, so the one thing I have learned in the last year is that babies don’t come with a manual and there clearly isn’t a right way or a wrong way of doing things, it’s really more a matter of finding a way that works for you!

So yesterday we headed out to our baby clinic for Ava’s one year vaccinations. I was armed with the info from our pead visit as well as all the tips and advise from you, my blog readers, ready to sit down and have a good chin wag with the clinic sister about the right way forward for Ava because a lot of the tips, advise and expert opinion from the pead were contradictory. So after 5 minutes of chatting to the clinic sister I realized that I wasn’t going to get clarity from her either. She contradicted the pead, she contradicted a lot of what you all have said. It was then that I realized that probably the best way to get around Ava’s feeding & weight issues is to pick and choose from all the bits of advice and opinions and find what works best for us.

For now, I’ve made the decision that as long as my child eats, it doesn’t matter what, as long as she eats. Yesterday morning, she ate half a jar of Purity Summer Fruit dessert for breakfast and I was happy with that, at least she’d eaten something that had nutritional value. So that is now our approach. We offer her food, often, about 5 mini meals a day and we’re sticking to the 200ml bottles of full cream cows milk. Interesting, as a side note, the clinic sister poo’poo’d all the stage 3 milks as well, but her opinion is that they’re just a money-making racket and we should keep Ava on stage 2 formula. I’ve also started her on Crèche Guard after reading up on its ability to stimulate appetite, reduce snotty noses and its natural deworming ingredients. We still give Ava one full meal a day as baby mush, with added butter and cream to try to increase the caloric value and the rest is finger foods, with me shoving bits of food into her mouth when she’s distracted. The other thing that we’ve found has worked really well, not a great habit, but for now, like dummy sucking or numb sucking, I’m not going to stress about it, is we allow her to eat with the TV on during especially difficult meals as Teletubbies and Tweenies distract her enough that we can shovel some food into her mouth – keep quiet please Mommy Police!

There is also a difference between the measurements that the pead and the clinic took. The clinic have Ava weighting more at 9.9kg’s but also taller and 79cm’s, which basically equates still to tall and skinny.

The one thing I loved that the clinic sister said is that because Ava is a good sleeper we can be sure she is not malnourished or hungry because she wouldn’t sleep through if she was.

So for now, I’m trying to set my frustration and concern aside and just forge ahead, one little mouthful at a time!

 

 

December 16, 2010
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5 Comments

  • Reply darylfaure

    Yes Sharon – it really is important to realise that you have to find out what works for you, and you as her mom really do know best.
    Please don’t worry about the TV while eating. I’m afraid I still do it with Dylan, as it distracts him and makes feeding him easier. I realise there will come a time when I will have to stop this bad habit, but I will do it when he is old enough to understand and has better verbal skills to express his frustrations.
    I also found giving him something to play with or even read while eating helps. The downside to this is that he has got so used to me feeding him, that I know that is going to be another battle, but you know what, it can be a later battle. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

    December 16, 2010 at 1:23 pm
  • Reply orbit365

    I think that you have the right attitude. Every kid is different and whatever worked for mine will not necessarily work for AVA. Listen to all the advice and just take what you need and what feels right for you and her.
    She sleeps well and she is thriving so she is definitely not malnourished. I’m thinking that this is a phase that will pass. TV while eating is a great idea. Worked well with my picky eater.
    You are a great Mommy and this too shall pass.
    xxx

    December 16, 2010 at 7:25 pm
  • Reply suestuart

    I find that the paed’s measurements and scale do differ from the clinic, so I tend rather to read the clinic’s measurements as I go there more regularly. I also got to a point where I decided to pick and choose between all the advice given, and do what works for us. I still ask for advice where necessary, but if I’m not comfortable I don’t go with it. Ava is healthy and happy – that’s what’s important 🙂

    December 17, 2010 at 3:48 pm
  • Reply emk808

    Don’t sweat her weight. My son is 21 months and might weigh about the same as Ava-Grace. I actually have no idea how tall he is…the last time he was measured was a few months ago and he measured smaller than Ava-Grace is now. He’s also an incredibly picky eater, so we’re happy whenever he eats anything. There might just be something in the genes that makes them less hungry and therefore smaller. It’s seriously not a big deal as long as she’s happy and doesn’t appear malnourished. The docs always make this huge deal about it, but seriously there generally isn’t a problem that can be fixed. Just keep doing what you’re doing (sneaking in extra calories).

    December 19, 2010 at 6:12 pm
  • Reply marina1605

    Hey Sharon. Since your last post about the weighty issue, Claudio has also started going off his food and it can be very stressful. I think it’s because he’s teething, so hopefully will pass as soon as those molars are out! I’m with you though, I’m just giving him little bits of food as often as possible and trying lunch and dinner as usual, but land up throwing half of it away, or eating it myself 🙂 And don’t worry about the TV thing, we also do it, anything that will help distract him so we can get him to eat. He also sleeps through, so must be fine. I guess it’s just a stage they go through at this age.

    December 21, 2010 at 9:23 am
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