Creating Good Habits

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You’re all aware, from the whiny tone of my blog postings over the past couple of weeks that they have been tough, very very tough weeks.

This weekend was the worst! On Friday night little Missy woke up at midnight and stayed awake until just after 02h20, she then fell asleep and woke up again at 04h10 and then didn’t go back to sleep.  Of course, this meant that for the balance of the day on Saturday, when little Missy wasn’t napping, she was unbearably grumpy. I’m talking so grumpy that I had to excuse myself from a lunch date with girlfriends when an elderly couple walked passed and commented on the baby that was making so much noise, I asked to have my lunch as a take away and promptly took little Miss Grumpy home. She screamed bloody murder in the car the entire way home and past out absolutely exhausted when we  got home. She slept so soundly that she didn’t stir when I went into her room and took these photo’s of her sleeping:

Saturday night was no better. We were awake from 1am till 3am and then again from just after 4am. We all managed a little nap at around 7am but still, we were all wasted for Sunday. It had reached a point where Walter was convinced that he was developing PND and that he needed an anti-depressant, my eyes were so red and so watery that I could almost not see out of them. Of course little Missy must have figured out that she’d pushed the boundary a bit far because she was as sweet as sweet could be on Sunday.

All of this just reconfirmed for me that, while some parents are happy to just fall in with their babies routine or lack there of, this simply wasn’t working for us. Also, after reading an article on Parenting.com, I had strongly started to suspect that this night-time waking had now become a bad habit as babies form habits within 3 days. Ava was no longer crying from pain, she was just waking up because it had become a habit to do so.

So on Sunday night I told Walter that it was time to do a bit of top up sleep training. I explained to him what the procedure would be and that it would probably be hell for a few days but that we’d reap the benefits in the long run as we could all go back to having full nights sleep again.

I really just feel that while I love my child with all my heart, I do not have to be a slave to her. And that these night-time wakings were not only detrimental to Walter and I and to our ability to function normally but also to Ava. Thankfully little Missy must have read my mind and known what was coming because she seems to have reverted back to her old sleeping patterns.

Long may it last…

September 21, 2010
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11 Comments

  • Reply coachmarcia

    Do you know I call Kendra “Missy” too? LOL

    I think it depends on the parents’ and kids’ personalities whether you can fall in with their habits or not, and to what extent 🙂

    Anyway, the real reason I wanted to comment – a lady at work told me that her hubby nearly had a nervous breakdown at 8 months with their twins, not sooner, but 8 months 🙂 I think it’s when they start asserting their personalities?

    All the best with bending Ava’s will! And what a cute ponytail!

    September 21, 2010 at 11:08 am
  • Reply skrambled

    It sure looks tough. I like your thinking though. Will probably be giving you a call when I need advice. I’m glad things have calmed a bit.

    September 21, 2010 at 11:17 am
  • Reply talithasmom

    well, after seeing pics of her sleeping so innocently and the ones playing peacefully and minding her own business… ahhh my heart just melted.
    Im sorry Sharon i cant remember anything else you said.. what was this post all about again :LoL 🙂

    September 21, 2010 at 11:20 am
  • Reply Hanneke C

    Isn’t this what real love is all about? Teaching Ava about boundaries and consequences (both good and bad)? PS gorgeous pictures 🙂

    September 21, 2010 at 11:34 am
  • Reply reluctantmom

    Sleep training is the fine line between sanity and shooting your DH in a fit of rage. They are so mich nicer when it is 7pm they ate sleeping and you are on the couch with first bottle of wine…you really remember then why you love them…not like at 2am when you are wearing a groove in the carpet and wondering why you ever thought this was a good idea. (earlier was ‘are sleeping’ I cannot go back and correct errors without deleting the entire message.)

    September 21, 2010 at 2:37 pm
  • Reply Mash

    Her hair is getting so looongg!!! (totally off the topic).

    I hope the sleep thing comes right because it must be absolute torture.

    September 21, 2010 at 4:44 pm
  • Reply little29

    interrupted sleep is hell 🙁 It is so hard to remain sane, and the smallest thing the following day will feel like the end of the world! Laughed at W with his PND!! I am sure many hubbies feel his pain lol
    Love the pony tail!! she is just way too cute to be angry with!

    September 21, 2010 at 8:06 pm
  • Reply hollielee5

    This was about the time my lil guy started with some bad sleep habits as well. A little coaxing in the right direction did the trick. Good luck, and wishing you LOTS of good rest in the future!

    September 22, 2010 at 3:52 pm
  • Reply orbit365

    “I really just feel that while I love my child with all my heart, I do not have to be a slave to her”.

    That is so true. Thank you for saying what I am simply not brave enough to say publicly. You have inspired me.
    xx

    September 28, 2010 at 6:38 pm
  • Reply yvettene

    Ahhh bless her and those little feet are just to gorgeous. She looks quite pleased with herself, keeping Mom & Dad up like that.

    September 28, 2010 at 10:06 pm
  • Reply wiseguyomoshiroi

    Ummm…did not read the post, but went through the pics….one happy gal there!

    October 1, 2010 at 1:04 pm
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