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Dear Little Bird, {one year on}

Tomorrow you will have been with us a whole year. The day of your placement is still so fresh in my memory, in some ways it feels like just yesterday, in others, it feels like a lifetime ago, like you’ve always just been with us, been apart of us.

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I won’t lie, it hasn’t been all been sunshine and roses. You struggled to adapt to being part of a family and not in a place of safety and at times I felt disheartened by how we were all struggling, you to fit in with us and us to make space for you in our tight knit family unit.

I also won’t lie, for the sake of other Mom’s to be who may be reading this, I didn’t bond with you immediately and this was a huge concern for me and a great source of my mothers guilt. For the longest time, I feared a terrible mistake had been made when you were placed with us and that I was the worst possible choice as your Mom. I felt heavily burdened by this, wanting to desperately to love you in an all consuming manner but feeling disconnected from you, at times like I was looking after someone else’s baby,  I felt heavily burdened by the guilt, not just of my own doing, but I felt guilt because your birth mother had chosen us/me and I felt I was failing her miserably and by extension, you, an innocent life, who did not chose any of this, who had no say in how your life began, a victim of other people’s choices. Mine, our social workers, your birth parents, all of us together.

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But in time your sensory issues and post placement stress started to disappear, thanks to lots of work with an OT and you started to settle and then I started to settle and without even realizing it, you crept so deep into my heart, I can’t imagine my life without you in it any more.

You are a wild child and I love your tenacious nature, your temper on the other hand… not so much and to be honest, I’m a little afraid of what your Terrible 2’s or F*cking 3’s will be like, I’ve already seen, at age one, how you stamp your feet and scream when you don’t get your own way. You have a serious case of FOMO and I love how you play with friends, always determined, even if you’re the smallest, to be apart of the action. You are a soft hearted little girl and while I fear life is going to bruise your soft heartedness, I really hope your gentle nature never changes.

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We love you little bird. I love you little bird, even though there are times you drive me crazy, I love you, don’t ever doubt it. Mommy loves you darling.

 

 

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25 Comments

  • Reply shaorn

    I so relate to your post i too went through the same sort of feelings of panic and being totally over whelmed but today (4 years later ) couldnt imagine my life without my little man xx

    April 23, 2014 at 10:15 am
  • Reply Tracy

    Your Homecoming Queen is gorgeous! She looks (and sounds) like such a character – an adorable individual.

    April 23, 2014 at 10:20 am
  • Reply Karen at MomAgain@40

    Congrats on the first year! She is beautiful!

    April 23, 2014 at 10:32 am
  • Reply ailsaloudon

    It happens with your biological children too – for various reasons – but they so quickly fill your heart with their love. A super post! 🙂

    April 23, 2014 at 11:19 am
  • Reply Karabo

    Relate so much with what you wrote! Thanks to you that i never doubted that my feelings were normal! Beautiful little girl you have

    April 23, 2014 at 12:03 pm
  • Reply Sam

    Shes so cute Sharon.

    xx

    April 23, 2014 at 1:43 pm
  • Reply Robyn

    Beautiful little Hannah! xxx

    April 23, 2014 at 1:45 pm
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