Dudes, I’m NOT Hysterical

I swear, I’m not. I may be a new Mom and granted a new mom under extraordinary circumstances, but hysterical is one thing I am not. In fact its the one comment all of my friends have made, how relaxed I am. I’m the complete opposite of a hysterical uptight mother.  So I promise you when I say my baby DOES NOT sleep during the day, I am not exaggerating.

I don’t mean she’s a poor sleep, I mean she does not sleep. At all, not even for a couple of minutes at a time during the day. And again, while I am a new mom, I have tried to, in a very short space of time, educate myself. So I know its not because I am doing something wrong or I’m not doing something I should be doing or …..

So here’s a run down of the things we have tried to get her to sleep:

  1. Sleep Sense, we implemented all the basic principles and for the first 4 weeks it worked like a charm. Putting her in her sleep zone, giving her a “dudu blankie”, playing Majors for Minors Sleep Cd, ensuring the curtains were closed, rocking her gently till she was in a drowsy state, then putting her down to sleep.
  2. We do the Lavendar and Johnson’s Bedtime baths in the evenings
  3. She has a wedge so she’s slightly elevated
  4. She had a bababag & a warm bean bag
  5. We drive around in the car, she only sleeps when the car is in motion, when we stop, she wakes up.
  6. I’ve walked myself stupid, again, she only sleeps while we’re in motion, as soon as I stop, she wakes up.
  7. Swaddling
  8. Not swaddling
  9. Sleeping on her side
  10. Sleeping on her back

Yesterday was EXTRA special, instead of sleeping till around 10-11am and then being awake for the rest of the day, she woke up at 8am and would not go down for the rest of the day, not even the hug-a-bub would work. The chiro did warn me that she could get a whole lot worse before she gets better as her body tries to come to terms with the new normal and I’m really hoping and praying that this is the worse she was referring to. Thank goodness we don’t have the same problem at night, the Bennets see’s to that and of course the fact that W is a hands on Dad and he does half the nighttime feeds does mean that I actually find the nights easier than the days.

This is really exhausting but we have our second session at the chiro today and I’m praying we’ll start getting some relief after that!


  • Jenny

    January 21, 2010 at 9:24 am

    oh Sharon, babies are tough. And you try a trillion different things and when you finally hit on the solution, the truth is they have just grown out of the fourth trimester. think of it like that – our babies should ideally be born three months later – so the first three months they need what they are missing in the womb – warmth and movement. hold on to her for all you are worth – my son also never ever napped in the first three months – first day back at work he slept in the morning and afternoon and so his routine started. It really does pass my friend but you have to go through it and tick all those boxes!

  • Hela

    January 21, 2010 at 9:42 am

    That must be so exhausting! Good luck at the chiro, I really hope it works out for you and Ava. (and yes they do get worse first which can be a little annoying)

    I take my hat off to you being able to do all the things you do with a baby that doesn’t sleep! I would’ve gone bonkers.

  • Katherine

    January 21, 2010 at 9:49 am

    Shame, I have no advice I’m afraid, but I seriously don’t know how you’re managing. Carrying them is exhausting, I know as I had to put Ava in the sling a lot as well and it’s draining. Hope the chiro does the trick.

  • jan

    January 21, 2010 at 10:56 am

    have you tried waking her? weird I know but put her down for her sleep at night(about 6/7pm) and wake her at say 6am then put her down for her morning nap – see what happens – oh gosh every baby is different I wish i could help you but its sadly just a trial and error until she/you finds what works for her. when we moved to NZ I was at my wits end as H was up a million times a night and woke about 4am for the day – we eventually put him into bed with us and then I mailed the baby sense people and they were quite awesome in their help -also their is a place in pretoria called the sister lillian centre they are also amazing – give them a call!http://www.sisterlilian.co.za/

  • Helen

    January 21, 2010 at 11:15 am

    Oh boy, it sound exactly like my experience when my little one was born. Didn’t want to sleep…niggly, and unhappy. All I can say is hang in there, it does get better! Taking mine to the Chiro definitely did work. Also, maybe try and get one of those electric baby swings…it might just give you a half an hour bit of peace when you need a break (I swear, if I’m lucky enough to be blessed with another baby, the swing is the first thing I am buying!)

  • Mel

    January 21, 2010 at 11:22 am

    Hope the Chiro helps out soon.

    My sister had the same problem with her daughter, the one day she got so upset she put her down, and she cried for like 15 min and then she cried herself to sleep, and that was the start of her routine.

    Maybe that will be helpful, good luck.

  • Denise

    January 21, 2010 at 1:24 pm

    LOL – I believe you. One of my friends has a little boy about the same age as Ava and she came to visit the other day. Her eyes were really big and round and she hardly blinked as she talked faster and faster and faster…

    And believe me when I say she is/was the most relaxed mom I ever saw… sleep deprivation is a b****

  • Adi

    January 21, 2010 at 4:53 pm

    Have you tried… a night nurse 🙂 . Just thinking of you too, you know, facing a baba awake for the whole daytime is perhaps one thing, but ongoing, on and on and on without break day and night must be unbelievably hard. Just until the chiro stuff kicks in. It really seems like you have tried everything, now it is just a matter of time and having sufficient energy and a fresh mind to see it through. Thinking of you, all the best.

  • Nix

    January 22, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Shame sweety, I do sympathise with you. I know a lot of Mom’s won’t do it, and I was dead against it too, until eventually pure exhaustion set in, but have you tried putting her on her tum? It seemed to have worked for us, and if you have an Angel Care Monitor, your mind will be put at ease.

    Hope the Chiro gets you all back on track.

  • Hollie

    January 22, 2010 at 8:24 pm

    IF I have learned ONE THING during this 15 weeks of motherhood, its not to pass judgment on anyone else’s parenting! Girl, you gotta do what you gotta do. Its not that you have these issues from lack of trying or lack of effort. Its just an issue that you as the parent of a most marvelous, beautiful Ava have to deal with. Every child is different. I hope you get some relief soon. As always, praying for you!

  • Lilla

    January 24, 2010 at 4:53 am

    Looks like you’ve tried everything!
    How about white noise? I babysit a wee baby girl and to get her to sleep her parents tell me to put on the white noise CD. And it works a treat everytime. From what i understand you can get a few different noises like running water, a jug boiling, a vacuum sound and more. Supposedly the noises sound somehwat like when the baby is inside the womb and has a calming affect!?!? Anyway just a thought!
    Hope the chiro helps.
    Lilla 🙂


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