In the second installment of the Fierce, Fearless, Fabulous, Forty series, I chatted with Jeannette, the whiskey swilling wordsmith behind the blog Whiskey Of The Week. And here’s what she had to say about rocking life in her 40’s!
Name and age:
Jeannette Wentzel, I am turning 46 in 2 months time
Blog address and social media handles:
http://whiskyoftheweek.co.uk/ and @whiskyoftheweek
How do you feel now that you’re in your forties?
More confident than when I was younger. I care less about what the world and society thinks and do things that pleases me. I worry less about how I look or have. I worry more about ensuring I live responsible with the resources around me to at least, in my little part of the world, leave a better place for my child to live in. Things like recycling and responsible water usage.
What has been your greatest achievement since turning forty?
I had my child at 40 and she is my greatest achievement. Also, making a career change from corporate executive to whisky and spirits blogger. Most of the bloggers are a lot younger and grew up with blogs. It was a huge learning curve to understand social media and plug ins, but I love the new challenge.
Now, as a mature woman, do you have any regrets? Anything you wish you could go back and do differently?
It feels like my 20s and 30s were so focused on my career and being successful, that I lost a huge chunk of who I am. I forgot what made me happy and what I enjoyed doing. I can’t change the past, I can however make sure I regain and rediscover myself and do the things that make me happy now. So now I crochet, DIY, bake, play with recipes and just do the things that makes me happy. We go on hikes, do things outdoors and focus less on work and more on me and my family.
If you could talk to your 20 or 30 something self, what would be one piece of advice you’d give yourself.
Stress less and be less obsessive about your career, success and love life. Don’t loose track of what makes you happy. Someone or something else can’t make you happy. You need to make yourself happy and be happy with yourself first.
What has been one/some of the biggest changes you’ve noticed within yourself since turning forty? Physically, my skin is not as flexible as it was when I was younger. And I find that the range of skincare for more mature skin is rather limited and gets quite expensive. I stopped at a point around 43 and thought about wearing age appropriate clothes and hair. And then I thought.. what is age appropriate when I still feel 35? And do I really care about age appropriate? And I realized that I don’t care anymore. Now I wear clothes that fit me and makes me feel good. Sometimes they are in fashion and sometimes they are not. It is more about clothes that fit my body shape best and I am comfortable in, than what is age appropriate.
What do you still hope to achieve in your forties?
To climb Kili and to travel to Scotland on a whisky tour.
What advice would you give to women who are fearful about approaching forty?
Relax. You can’t stop the aging process. You can choose to spend endless hours worrying about it, endless time and money on slowing it down, but it is happening. Rather go find the joy in life. A smile is the best make up anyway. Use the money to travel and discover new things and places.
What is one of societies stereotypes about women in their forties that you wish you could change? Age appropriate clothing. What is age appropriate clothing anyway? And why is mature skin skincare and make up so expensive and the range so limited?
Any parting thoughts or comments?
Aging is a part of life. It is an adventure to enjoy and to grab onto fully. Not to worry and obsess about. Go and do what you enjoy. Make yourself happy.
Thank you Jeannette for participating. I loved your take on life and on making yourself happy, that sentiment resonated so much with me because it’s something I’ve found myself doing so much more and with much less guilt now in my forties too!
Are you fierce, fearless, fabulous and in your forties? Would you like to be featured in this series? Then drop me an email!