In this week’s installment of Fierce, Fearless, Fabulous & Forty, we meet Meneesha! I have never actually met this lady, but I loved her outlook and her book reviews are fabulous! Meneesha describes her great as being a lifelong student and a culinary wannabe! And I loved what she had to say!
Name and age
Meneesha Govender 45
Blog address and social media handles
@MeneeshaG on Twitter,
@justmeneesha on Instagram
How do you feel now that you’re in your forties?
Age is just a number to me, I wear it with pride. While I will happily tell someone I am 45, I also happily tell them I’ve been 23 for the last 22 years. As long as my mind is active and busy I really do feel 23. However, there are the odd mornings I simply cannot get out of bed without my partner’s help – those are the days my back locks up because of a diving injury I incurred 17 years ago, but which plagues me now – because apparently my body cannot keep up with my mind! Go figure.
What has been your greatest achievement since turning forty?
I have two huge achievements that I am very proud of. One was life altering and happened when I decided at this stage in my life to change career paths to some extent. The death of my mum recently was a huge wake-up call to stop being complacent and to live life with no regrets. I’ve given up the security of a permanent job and monthly pay cheque to be my own boss, studying and doing what I love best. The second is beginning to cook for my family. I’ve only had a kitchen because it came with our house. But, with more time to plan my day now, I’ve learnt to fit in time in the day to whip up a culinary (almost) delight that thankfully has seen anyone hospitalised yet!
Now, as a mature woman, do you have any regrets? Anything you wish you could go back and do differently?
Mature? I’m not sure I am that mature. I prefer the word experienced. As for regrets, I think what keeps me young at heart, is my undying optimism. I’m a glass half-full type of person. I can’t say for sure I would want a redo and would do anything differently. It’s not going to happen so why dwell on it? I’d be wasting way too much of my precious time dwelling on the what if instead of living in the now.
If you could talk to your 20 or 30 something self, what would be one piece of advice you’d give yourself.
Slow down, you have a lifetime to grow up.
What has been one/some of the biggest changes you’ve noticed within yourself since turning forty?
I’m more at peace with my body, my self and where I am in my life. It’s a liberating feeling.
What do you still hope to achieve in your forties?
I’d like to be successful in my new venture. I want to teach my daughter that she’s a strong human being who can achieve anything she sets her mind to.
What advice would you give to women who are fearful about approaching forty?
As I said before, 40 is just a number. Embrace it, own it and wear it with pride. You’ve earned your right to be who you want to be by now.
What is one of societies stereotypes about women in their forties that you wish you could change?
Society dictates that as you age you should be more mellow, you should act more “mature”. But now is the time to find your voice, assert yourself and accept yourself – warts and all.
Any parting thoughts or comments?
Your 40s only last a decade. Make it count because your 50s are going to be another roller coaster of highs and new chapters.
Thank you for sharing your story with us Meneesha! Wishing you well for the remainder of your forties and may you continue to inspire and rock the rest of this decade and the next one!
Are you fierce, fearless, fabulous and in your forties? Would you like to be featured in this series? Then drop me an email!