My Girls, More Lessons About Winning At Life

I wrote this for you six months ago. 

My Girls, In The Great Show Of Life, It’s More Important To Be A Winner Than To Win

And this is the example I try to set for you, every day of my life. Not just for you though, for me too. 

Sometimes we try hard and in the eyes of others we may fail, but when at first you don’t succeed, you try and try again. 

NEVER QUIT! Always follow your dreams and your passion!

And that’s what I did just a little over a week ago. Even though my first dressage show, just over 6 months ago was what can only be called a disaster, I got back out there and I tried again. 

Was I scared? Hell yes!

But this time around, the only person I was competing against was myself. I wanted to do and be better than I was the last time around and I was. I rode two tests and achieved 20% higher score on both tests with near perfect scores on some of the movements I failed in miserably the first time around (the three loop serpentine). Which had been my nemesis before but which I scored a 9,5 out of a possible 10 this time around.

I didn’t come last and I beat myself and that makes me a winner!


Insanely proud right now! From stone last in my first show, 7 months ago, to 3rd & 2nd in this show. It may seem ridiculous but a week before my 45th birthday the sense of achievement after more than 20 years out the saddle is huge & a reminder that you’re never too old to follow your passion even if you find that passion late in life. The goal I set myself today was to beat myself! To achieve a higher score than I did the last time & I did it, I increased my score by 20% in both tests, the rosettes are just an added bonus, beating myself is the real win! Thank you to my amazing instructor, Gelanda for her passion, support, knowledge & commitment & to my guy, Tribes for being the bestest! ❤️

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I scored third place in my first test and second place in my second test and I am beyond proud of that. Remember this my girls, your age doesn’t count, your passion does. And when I got out on that arena for this show, I was ready to be better than I had been before, I knew I had worked hard and done the practise. I had taken the time to learn my horse and all his little quirks and his personality and I loved him for it and we were a great team and team work is often what pulls you through. 

The morning of the test, I was incredibly nervous, I so badly wanted to do better than the last time, not just for me, but for you too. I wanted to be better and beat myself, I knew I’d put in the work but do you know what calmed me completely, “my” horse, Tribes. The morning of the test, as I stood there nervously, checking out his tack and making sure everything was perfect, he wrapped his head around my body and pulled me into him and I knew we were a team and I knew were were going to smash it and we did!

And these are the lessons I want you to remember from this test:

  • Love, honour and respect your tools, they will help get you through, in this case, the tool was my guy, Tribes.
  • Work hard but love what you do. If you’re following your passion it will never feel like work.
  • Practise
  • Fear is normal and healthy, it keeps you alert and not complacent.
  • You are your biggest adversary, always aim to beat yourself.
  • If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.
  • Be tenacious, don’t give up, ever! 
  • It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it only matters how you feel! 

Because being a winner in life is more important than winning!


Perfect end to a busy day! A ride at sunset with my guy, Tribes!

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  • Reply Alet Swart

    Great lessons for the girls. Well done on the achievement, Sharon. xx

    June 19, 2017 at 9:09 am
  • Reply Bongiwe Ndimande-Mbhele

    Well done

    June 19, 2017 at 3:25 pm
  • Reply lindasjournal

    Well done!! Such a great achievement.

    June 20, 2017 at 12:03 pm
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