Because I am the Queen of last minute, I spent the better part of this evening ironing name tags onto all of Ava’s school clothes in preparation for the start of the school year tomorrow (Hooray! Yay! Woohoo!) and it’s really not a job I love. I hate ironing, I don’t ever touch our iron, sorry if I sound spoiled, but if our nanny goes away, we wear unironed clothes *gasp* because I just can’t bring myself to bare the torture of ironing! I can’t! I just can’t!
So I was having a little grumble on Face Book about how I was spending the evening and so many mom’s popped up saying… why am I ironing labels on to Ava’s clothes when I could just write her name in her clothes with a permanent marker. Such a simple solution to avoid doing something I loathe but I just can’t do it. I can’t. I just can’t.
So I started thinking about why this was such an issue for me? Why couldn’t I just write her name in her clothes.It would make my life much easier and her clothes would me marked, granted, not with the totally cute Hello Kitty personalized labels I was currently painstakingly ironing into each item but still.. her name would be there.
But I just can’t do it and it really bothered me as to why I simply couldn’t take the easy way out. It bothered me that Ava wouldn’t have cute labels in her clothes, it bothered me that other people might think that Ava had a lazy mother. It bothered me that Ava may look around and see other kids with cute labels (I know right??) and wonder why I didn’t love her enough to do the same.
And that’s when it hit me. I have to do this long and arduous task because it’s an act of service and that is my primary love languages. Its a way of expressing my love for Ava, an important way for me to convey to her how much I love her, what she means to me. Crazy huh? She probably won’t even notice but it means so much to me. If I was my 4 year old self now, this would be a big deal for me, because of the act of love that it would represent for me.
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.*
People who speak this love language seek to please their partners by serving them; to express their love for them by doing things for them. Actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing the dishes, sorting the bills, walking the dog or dealing with landlords are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. I’m not saying become a doormat to your partner and do these things out of guilt or resentment. No person should ever be a doormat. Do these things as a lover.
Oh…. and for everyone who has asked, the totally cute custom labels are from It’s Mine & their iron on labels are the best! They do not come off! Hannah is wearing some of Ava’s hand me downs that still have the labels on them more than 2 years later!