The Oxford Dictionary defines a mother as – A woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth
I think it’s time to update that definition Oxford. And perhaps Webster dictionary, you could update your definitoin too – a woman who has borne a child.Excuse me if while I lift the giant chip off my shoulder, but frankly that definition really pisses me off.
For me, the definition of a mother is so much more than a woman who gives birth to a child. Any woman can do that… well maybe not but still. For me, the definition of a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a nurturer, a protector, a disciplinarian, a companion, a teacher, a provider. A mother is someone who sets aside her own needs and wants for the sake of her children. A mother is someone who works hard, every moment of every day, to set an example for her children, to teach her children, to care and raise her children, to equip her children with the skills and knowledge they will need to grow up, safely, healthy, adjusted adults. Last time I checked, none of those things require the act of giving birth.
To define a mother as someone who has given birth is to, in my opinion, down play the role a real mother has in raising her children because mother’s come in myriad of different forms. Step mother, adoptive mother, surrogate mother, birth mother, all of these types of mother have sacrificed, loved and nurtured a child they did NOT give birth to or are raising but they have still had a profound impact on the lives of their children, whether biologically their own or not.
I am so tired of the lip service society plays to the roll of mother. I’m so tired of being told in one breath that I am a mother and then in another, having that definition of mother being a woman who gave birth, even when it’s done as a joke using funny mother meme’s.
It’s time. It’s time we formerly change the definition of a mother. It’s time to make the definition of a mother, inclusive all mothers and in so doing, honoring all mothers for the roles they play in raising their children.