Just a Jumble of Thoughts or just social exhaustion.

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I find myself in an odd head space at the moment….

I was going to write a “Currently” post but I feel like I lack inspiration to really write anything mostly because of the jumble of thoughts in my head. So many thoughts swimming round and round in my head at the moment.

So maybe this is the place to try and verbalize them all, sort through them, discard some of them and try to move forward with a clearer vision.

Guys, sometimes I feel with the onset of our social media lives, the things that are really important to us get clouded by others (loud) opinions. There have been so many things irritating me lately…. I’m not even sure where to start, or if I even want to open the proverbial can of worms.

Maybe I’m just socially exhausted.

I find myself wanting to share less and less about my children. Especially with Ava, she’s getting older and is far more aware than she used to be, she’s also very tech savvy and I find myself listening more carefully to the social statements she makes lately. She has started moving more and more towards not wanting me to share about her online. She thinks you’re all my friends, so sweet, so innocent, imagine that were true? So if I take a picture of her, she will often ask me afterwards to not share it with all “my friends” and I respect that. I’ve always been cautious about protecting my kids online but I find myself even more so these days.

I think that’s part of the reason I have struggled so much with establishing my “brand” identity and why a lot of my blogging has moved away from parenting and leans more towards lifestyle blogging now. I’m sure this is a natural progression, our kids get older, there is less and less that is appropriate to share. 

And then there is the perception of mommy bloggers out there. Now maybe I’m just sensitive (ok, yes I def am), but it does, at times, feel like mommy bloggers are looked down on by the digital community, even though I have it on good authority we are some of the top “influencers”. I’ve been thinking about this for a while now, I think it’s also part of what has made me struggle with my brand identity of late, after someone made a comment to me, in jest, granted, but you know….. Never a truer word spoken in jest… The comment was something along the lines of how I should just hush and go write something about the colour of baby poo. I think this is the reason why I was so chuffed to attend the Jameson event, somebody out there saw me as more than a one dimensional woman who sits around writing about baby poo. 

And then there is the other side of things, and that is that I think often mommy bloggers get a bum rap, we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. When you post positivity about your life, you’re fake. When you’re honest you moan too much or don’t appreciate your children, balancing that tight rope is exhausting at times, especially because for me, authenticity is everything and sometimes things are really great and sometimes, they’re simply not. 

There is also “professional” (can I call it that?) jealousy and this can lead to rather unbecoming behavior. I abhor people who activiley seek our and encourage drama. Don’t do that, it says way more about your character. 

Meh…. sometimes I think I should just pack it all in and forget this whole gig. I really need to learn to not take other people’s opinions to heart. Really, they are at the end of the day, just opinions and you know what they say about opinions and assholes right? And this digital sphere is full of opinions, they’re not all right, or right for me. It just becomes tiring constantly hearing how thing should be done. I don’t want to do it your way, I want to do it my way. I want to enjoy the creative process of my blog and I honestly can’t do that when my thoughts and judgement are constantly clouded by others opinions.

Or maybe I’m just socially exhausted.

I don’t know. 

May 13, 2016
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14 Comments

  • Reply belindamountain

    I’m so with you about wanting to share less about your kids online – I’m exactly the same! In fact my parenting blog posts are becoming few and far between but I’m still branded as a mommy blogger….hard to shake that label I guess! (and not sure I want to yet). I suppose you’ve always got to go back to the reason you started blogging and try and focus on that (catharsis, creative release etc)…we all have MEH days, even award winners and successful bloggers like you;). xxx

    May 13, 2016 at 10:21 am
    • Reply Sharon

      Thanks for your comment Belinda! And that’s the thing. I love the creative outlet, of all of it, the photographing of goodies and sharing etc. But at times it just becomes exhausting. And award winning…. ja that was a fluke hey!

      May 13, 2016 at 10:25 am
  • Reply Jozi Wahm

    I totally get your sentiments relating to not wanting to share too much about your little ones. I think I was quite conscious about the fact that they might not be happy about me oversharing as they get older from the word go and that is the main reason why I chose not to blog under my real name or share any pictures of my children on my blog.

    May 13, 2016 at 11:01 am
  • Reply Cindy Alfino

    I’m totally with you. I feel all these feels on the regular. Sometimes I get over it and other times I succumb to it and feel crap about everything I have done/will do/never did. It’s actually why I’ve stopped reading a lot of other peoples blogs, I just can’t add to the feelings pool anymore.

    On the note of sharing about our kids, I think there’s two kinds of sharing. There’s story telling that’s relatable without being offensive and then there’s sharing that will make your kids hate you when they are older. As mommy bloggers, if we make it more about our take on things as opposed to what our kids did, then maybe it’s not so bad? Or well, that’s what I’ve been telling myself anyway. I dig sharing photos, I’m not sure I’ll stop doing that unless they ask me not to in which case I will obviously not do it. Maybe it’s time to have that chat with them.

    May 13, 2016 at 11:01 am
    • Reply Sharon

      I agree with you re. sharing about our kids and also, sharing valuable insights to experiences maybe somebody else hasn’t struggled with. For me, it’s more about being mindful of that line now that I know Ava is aware and respecting when she asks me not to.

      May 13, 2016 at 12:27 pm
  • Reply Michelle

    Nooooo please don’t pack in it Sharon, I m not even a mom and you re one of my all time favorite bloggers. Your writing speaks to everyone! I adore you and your blog!

    May 13, 2016 at 11:30 am
    • Reply Sharon

      Aaah! Thanks Michelle. I probably won’t because I love the creative outlet. I just need to filter out other people’s noise a bit better.

      May 13, 2016 at 12:24 pm
  • Reply Ramona

    I love reading your blog. I guess with time your blog will change direction with your own circumstances. Your blog is very real and your content very heartfelt. Don’t stop with the blog.

    May 13, 2016 at 3:34 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Thank you Ramona!

      May 13, 2016 at 3:37 pm

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