I’ve been on vacation for just over a week now and as the year winds down, a midst a haze of socializing, over eating and drinking, I have taken some time to reflect back on 2011 and some of the lesson’s I’ve learned from the past year. Some are frivolous, some serious but all equally important to me.
- Every cliche about raising children is true. The one I’m currently most aware of is that they do grow up too quickly! I cannot believe that my little baby is 2 already.
- Tranquilizers are wonderful drugs. For the first time in years I’m sleeping well and sleeping right through the night. No more middle of the night angst and worry sessions for me. I’m feeling calm, calmer than I have felt in years and I’ve been able to enjoy my days without the knot of anxiety in the pit of my stomach.
- Forgiveness is a powerful thing, not for the person being forgiven, but for me. Learning to forgive has set me free from a lot of the anger and bitterness that I’ve carried with me, some of it for very many years.
- Everyone will show their true colours eventually and I have felt vindicated by the showing of those colours and by seeing the wool being lifted off many many sets of eyes.
- Toxic friendships are more trouble than they’re worth and while ending a toxic friendship was not easy or fun, it was probably one of my greatest lessons in recent months. That feeling of freedom as one shakes off and walks away from all that poison.
- Sometimes friendships end because we have unrealistic expectations of each other. Sometimes friendships end because we think we have more in common than we actually do. Sometimes friendships end because we expect our friends to behave in the same way that we do, forgetting that we are individuals and respecting and accepting each other for our differences.
- Trusting my instincts as a mother and learning to trust that I do know what is best for my child and that I know how to parent her better than any book could teach me.
- Never ever make fun/tease people who are royal wedding watchers, they take that stuff really seriously. Actually, I need to learn to tone down my teasing, I’m a tease and I get it from my father who is a terrible tease too but not everyone can handle it.
- Learning that at “not yet 40” the days of taking risks with my hair and my appearance are over. I can no longer carry off a white haired rock chic look, instead I end up looking like a tired, washed out Billy Idol wannabe, see Exhibit A.
- I also learned that one can get almost all the professional advice that one needs by asking #twoogle and that my Twitter mates are always there to help me out in a moment of desperation, like a cry for help on how to get rid of the Billy Idol look.
- A box of Ash brown hair dye fixes all the sins of the Billy Idol look.
All in all, 2011 has been a year of re-defining friendships and the way I view friendship and the relationships I have with those closest to me.
Right, now I’m off to enjoy the last few days of my holiday!
Happy New Year everyone!