Moving Along…

I see yesterday’s post generated a lot of interest! Mmm I wonder why? My blog stats literally doubled and went to well over a 1000 hits yesterday. I suppose the content of the message got a lot of tongues wagging and I’ve never been one to fall on my mouth, I have no problem expressing myself and letting it all hang out, no matter how ugly it may be.

And it landed up being a pretty pointless exercise too because I don’t feel any better about the situation, in fact, on some levels I feel worse. I’m hurt in ways I never thought I would be.

Anyway, onwards and upwards and no looking back! I’ll get over it, I’ve overcome a lot in the 7 odd years we tried for a baby, in fact, I’ll go a step further and say I’ve overcome a lot in my life, infertility be damned, its not the only crappy thing that has happened in my life.  I got hurt plenty of times but I did recover and I will from this too.

Its been a bit of an ephifany for me, I’ve had a couple of rather jolting realizations about myself and infertility in general and what it does to us as individuals and I’ll say this, its not all nice. But when we can name it we can claim it and move on from it instead of hiding behind it.

And that’s what I’m choosing to do, moving right along now!

15 Comments

  • Dee

    March 16, 2010 at 10:04 am

    Hi S, just want to let you know that I always read but its sometimes a bit difficult to comment on sleep routines or feeding etc BUT I am still VERY interested in you and little A. Im thrilled that you are a mommy now, I always wanted to see that happen it just becomes difficult to relate, Im sure you know the drill.

    Sending hugs and lots of love xxx

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  • Abs

    March 16, 2010 at 11:31 am

    There is never any point to looking back unless we intend to reflect upon it and become better as a result of our experiences. So much about infertility is ugly. I know already that one day I’ll look back and regret many misguided words or actions fueled by heartache or jelousy. We are all the same, we are all human and we will all make mistakes. Our ability to endure,overcome and most of all forgive is one thing I hope we never loose along this journey. xxx

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  • Jenny

    March 16, 2010 at 11:43 am

    Ai Sharon. I have always wished for a friend like myself. But when days are dark, friends really are few. Since discovering my husband’s infidelity very, very few people have stood by me. I guess they feel awkward and like it’s going to some how rub off on them. And I guess like most people they just don’t know what to say when in fact, all you need to do is listen. I have noticed a lot of your baby posts don’t get a huge response, I guess it’s because a lot of your readers just don’t know what to say purely because they don’t have babies yet. And you are in that phase of motherhood where it really is all consuming to the exclusion of everything else. I hope the hurt is not too deep, that we can all forgive each other for just being human in days to come.

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  • Bratty

    March 16, 2010 at 2:04 pm

    Hi Sharon…I love your blog..but sometimes I don’t comment because of my inexperience with handling LO’s. When my LO is born, I will probably give more feedback. But I still read….(brownie points for me..smile)

    But remember you are definitely entering a better phase of your life…and, just like when you get married, sometimes you have to leave your former life behind you, and form a new life.

    A true friend will always come back to you, regardless if they leave the path for awhile…so hang in there…

    You move right on…keep moving..and we will follow right behind you…

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  • Tam

    March 16, 2010 at 3:49 pm

    I’m sorry you still feel this way, I think that we have all tried to explain how hard this is for all of us (you included). Life changes and it’s sad that we can’t all change together, in a perfect world…

    This happens all the time, people don’t know how to always offer support but that doesn’t mean that they don’t care anymore. Don’t let it get you down, people come and people go but in the end if the friendships were built on solid ground to start off with, they will endure even this. Xxx

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  • SCY

    March 16, 2010 at 4:08 pm

    Like I said to you earlier my friend, sometimes you need to take a step back and let the situation play itself out.

    Again I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt by this transition but it will all work out.

    xxx

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  • Amanda

    March 16, 2010 at 5:21 pm

    It’s a time in your life where you need to move on and up like you say. Your season is over and a new one has begun! You will find a wealth of blessings on your new journey, so enjoy it. Your little girl is a blessing and a precious gift and that’s all that matters, the rest will fall into place and you will find like minded people who will support you and who you will be able to support! So chin up girl, you’ll be absolutely fine.
    And BTW, WELCOME!!!!

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  • monica lemoine

    March 16, 2010 at 6:32 pm

    Good for you for moving right along. You’re on such an awesomely rad track right now, Shaz – and you deserve any tongue-wagging or whatever other conflicting feelings might arise for you these days (I liked that last post, by the way!!). Your baby girl is freakin’ adorable too. Go girl!

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