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Objectifying Women Harms Us All & I Am TERRIFIED For My Daughters!

It’s amazing how parenting changes ones perspectives. Though out our years of infertility, I secretly yearned for a daughter. Now I have two daughters and I’m blessed in ways I never imagined possible.

BUT

I am terrified of the society I am raising my daughters in. 

Rape Culture

Objectification of women

How to I protect them from this? In a society where rape culture and victim blaming is everywhere. In a society that values a woman for her looks and her thigh gap and not what’s between her ears and who she is.

I am so frightened of what lies ahead for my daughters. 

I recently started watching The Hunting Ground!

The Hunting Ground is a documentary film about the incidence of sexual assault on college campuses in the United States and what its creators say is a failure of college administrations to deal with it adequately. Written and directed by Kirby Dick and produced by Amy Ziering, it premiered at the 2015 Sundance Film Festival. The film was released on February 27, 2015,[2] an edited version aired on CNN on November 22, 2015,[3][4] and was released on DVD the week of December 1, 2015.[5]Lady Gagarecorded an original song, “Til It Happens to You,” for the film.[6]

The documentary focuses on Annie E. Clark and Andrea Pino,[7] two former University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill students who filed a Title IX complaint against UNC in response to their rapes while enrolled.[8] The use of Title IX in campus sexual assault cases became a model for universities across the country.[citation needed]

Critics of the film, including writer Emily Yoffe and a number of Harvard Law School professors, have questioned The Hunting Ground’s accuracy and objectivity.[9][10][11] Among the issues raised by critics are the film’s portrayal of one man as a rapist, while not disclosing that the university and the police had found him not responsible for the alleged sexual assault,[9][10] and for use of controversial statistics.[12] The filmmakers have actively defended their work, responding to most criticisms.[4][13][14][15]

Now I studied in a university town. I know these things happen. One of my friends was raped as a student and by a student there. 

And then of course, there was the whole conversation on Twitter this week, sparked by one tweet:


Have you read all the replies? Seen how many times that tweet has been retweeted? Because really, as a woman, haven’t we ALL at some point, been touched, groped or objectified without our permission?

Raising a girl child is terrifying!

And then I stumbled across this video this morning and once again, I was reminded of just how terrifying raising a daughter is. Just what a massive responsibility this whole parenting gig is, if you’re raising your daughter, you need to teach her about these things and if you’re raising a son, you have a responsibility in all of this too! To teach your sons about this, to teach them not to perpetuate this.

  Parenting is terrifying. I feel inadequate and completely unprepared for what lies ahead. I don’t know where to start. How do I teach my daughters to respect themselves, that they are more than just the sum of their pretty faces or thigh gaps. How do I teach them that rape culture and victim blaming, while so easily accepted by many, including women, is NOT ok. How do I teach them to value themselves enough that they will always stand up for themselves and NEVER accept anything less than respectful treatment from a man or anyone else in this life?

How?

I am afraid!

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21 Comments

  • Reply belindamountain

    I’m also terrified but at least we’re talking about it now (it is the ONLY good thing that Trump has done – make us talk about it more). This article especially rung true for me: http://www.todayletter.com/home/grab-her

    October 14, 2016 at 10:01 am
    • Reply Sharon

      I was thinking the same thing. Trump’s comments have shone a light on this topic for all. It’s been quite shocking seeing people’s reactions to it and how clueless some really are!

      October 14, 2016 at 10:09 am
  • Reply Caroline

    Petrified!

    October 14, 2016 at 10:58 am
  • Reply Cass Ferguson

    Still to this day I get shocked and upset if a guy tries to flirt with me or sneaks in a butt grab. It’s disgusting and a sad reality.

    As a mom of a boy I am hell bent on teaching him to be a gentleman. Teaching him to respect himself , and others , and to know that his body and who he is is sacred and vice versa.

    If we ever had to be fortunate enough to have a little girl – then my hopes would be to always remind her of her self worth and value and that she won’t find those things or in other people.

    Ah, it’s so hard because there are still strange people out there . We can just hope and pray that they will be wise and confident and speak out and confront these issues …

    Many women feel too ashamed to talk about these things or embarrassed – I know I used to feel that way. Then I realized that if we keep quiet all the time then those creeps win…. We need to make others esp the girls aware of these issues and help bring about change X

    October 15, 2016 at 7:20 am
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