The double standards of our patriarchal society really p*ss me off! There I said it, judge away! I don’t consider myself a well versed thoughtful intellectual, I’m just a regular girl, with a regular IQ, nothing outstanding or brilliant about me. And I hate tackling these types of posts on my blog because sometimes I question whether or not I have the intelligence or verbal and written skills to adequately do this topic justice, but here goes…
Growing up as a girl and now as a mother raising two girls, I’ve become increasingly aware of the symptoms of our patriarchal society. The double standards that exist between boys and girls and men and women… The sniggers and giggles surround comments like: you scream like a girl, you throw like a girl or…. my pet peeve, you can’t do that because you’re a girl! Heck, I’m guilty of these comments myself, that’s how deeply ingrained this train of thought is in all of us, we are all guilty of gender based double standards to some degree of other. I’ve faced it in my own career, most especially since becoming a mother and it is infuriating.
Most recently, I’ve been aware of this gender based double standard with the recent/current SM campaigns to raise funds and awareness for cancer… the #nomakeupselfie and the #cockinasock campaigns. I usually don’t participate in these types of campaigns but when I heard that they were actually raising funds for cancer associations around the world, I did it, I took part in the female version… #nomakeupselfie
The #nomakeupselfie & #cockinasock campaigns have garnered a lot of attention on line but what became glaringly obvious to me was the total gender based double standard cropping up once again. The women’s campaign, the #nomakeupselfie has been toted as vapid and narcissistic. There have been hundreds of articles written about it, about how the #nomakeupselfie is just another example of vanity. So many people I know IRL and online, peeps I hold in high regard and who I greatly respect have also slammed the #nomakeupselfie campaign, once again as vain, vapid, narcissistic etc, and not just peeps, fellow women.
But what I can’t help noticing is how no one… not one single person has made the same negative comments about the #cockinasock campaign. Everyone thinks this campaign, which really is just the male version of the #nomakeupselfie for women, is daring, fabulous, fun, risqué, provocative. I’ve not seen it written anywhere that this campaign is vapid or vain or narcissistic.
Why is that? Is this another double standard? If I posted a picture of my boods in coconuts and hash tagged it #boobfruit in aid of cancer awareness, would that be considered fabulous, fun, risqué, provocative and for a good cause raising cancer awareness or would I be called a slut?
Or is it just socially accepted that women celebrating their natural beauty are vain, while men celebrating their masculinity are just fabulous?
Edited to add: Just to clarify, this blog post is NOT about the merits & values of such campaigns but rather the double standards that seem to exist between the male & female versions of the same campaign.