Last night I sent out an SOS to all the parents on Twitter about something I’ve been worrying about for a while now….
When Ava was 11 months old, she sat on my lap on a plane, turned to me, wagged her finger in my face and said: “No no no Mamma!” and we’ve not been able to shut her up every since.
I remembered, with her, worrying about when she’d actually walk…. she did eventually just before she turned 15 months.
Hannah has been the complete opposite, walking at 9 months, I remember being astounded with her first few steps, she was so young. She has achieved almost all of her physical milestones early, except for this one, which I now find myself stressing and worrying about.
She’s 16 months old and doesn’t talk! Or rather, she talks non-stop but pretty much none of it makes any sense to me. She can shout for her Mamma and her Dadda and has been calling Ava for a long time now, but nothing else, or at least nothing else that I can understand.
Two nights ago, she was sitting in her high chair eating her supper, when she got this big grin on her face and as clear as day she said: “Hello!” but since then nothing again, except a constant stream of baby babble. She can tell really long, expressive stories, complete with hand motions and the works, but none of it I can understand.
Ava claims to understand her, she says she’s talking “baby English” and she’ll often interpret for me what it is that Hannah is asking for/wanting/needing. She’ll tell me, Hannah wants a cuddle, Hannah wants juice, Hannah wants you to stay with her, Hannah wants you to sit with her etc. But honestly, I thought she was just making this stuff up, because I sure as hell don’t understand a word out of Hannah’s mouth.
I know some people have suggested getting her hearing checked, but honestly I don’t believe it’s that at all. She comes when I call her and follows instructions, even when they’re given from a distance away, so she can definitely hear and understand but for whatever reason, she’s choosing not to speak. Another reason I know that she can hear and I guess most parents of younger children will understand this… is because she can “sing” (in “baby English”) all the words to Frozen’s “Let It Go!” perfectly in tune, just not in any words we can understand!
A friend of mine who works in the parenting field suggested that perhaps she’s just not talking because there is no need for her to, all of her needs are being met, especially as a second child with an older sibling acting as interpretor for her and that in time, she’d get over herself and start talking. I’m starting to think this is the most logical explanation for Hannah’s lack of clear communication.
The worrying never ends does it? It doesn’t matter what they do or don’t do, when they do it or don’t do it, I’m really starting to believe that all things regardless, as a parent, you’re simply doomed to a lifetime of worry!