I’m opinionated. And I’m the first person to admit it. I’m opinionated. I have opinions on a large variety of topics. From topics I’m well versed on, to topics I’m not so knowledgable on. But I have an opinion, I am not a fence sitter or a wall flower, not by a long shot.
But boy, if there is one thing that irritates the CRAP out of me its other people’s unsolicited opinions and advice. If I ask for your opinion or advice, whether I agree with it or not is one thing, but to inflict your opinion on me, when I wasn’t asking for it is just very annoying in my books. Sometimes I just want to sound off, chat, talk, without somebody trying to point out the error or my ways and telling me how I could make my life better.
And it has never been more annoying than since becoming a mother. There are so many great mom’s out there, with great advice, experience and opinions, but they don’t force them on you, unless you specifically ask for an opinion or advice. But then you get another breed of mom. The know-it-all-&-knows-it-best kind of Mom’s. Who go about voicing & forcing their opinions at every perceived opportunity.
I’ve had a taste of this twice over the past few days. The first time, I went about asking for opinions on a subject which I knew would have 50% for and 50% against, I asked the question because I was unsure of where I stood and wanted to use the other mom’s from both group’s opinions, to help me make a decision, but I was actually quite annoyed by the haute, know-it-all-&-knows-it-best attitude from some mom’s, who were openly “judgy” about the other group of mom’s who were for what I had asked.
Then again today, I got the hell in because I made an innocent statement about how my Dr had put me on bed rest for 3 days and how was I going to do that with a toddler and a husband to care for and wouldn’t you know it, the statement was used in an attempt to show me the error of my ways for having a nanny and why this is precisely the reason why my child should be in crèche. It really annoyed me. It was not an invitation to start a discussion about the pro’s and con’s of my choices. I was merely facetiously pointing out seemingly stupid Dr’s orders. Because let’s get real, what mother, with a child in crèche or otherwise, could possibly spend 3 days lying in bed??!!!
It is precisely these types of scenario’s that have started to make me really gun-shy of online communities. Whether it be Face Book, support forums, my blog or Twitter – recently had a rather unpleasant experience there too, although the part that shocked me about that one, was it was unprovoked.
I’ve started thinking more and more lately about my participation in all of these online arena’s and whether I want to continue to participate at all. It’s really just not worth the stress, anxiety, anger or irritation that it sometimes causes.
You know, if I needed an opinion about parenting, I have plenty of IRL friends to ask.
I’m in a funny place at the moment. Just had one too many online experiences that has left me thinking what the hell is the point?