We attended Ava’s school prize giving yesterday and just like last year, I was in tears, but this time, for completely different reasons. Last year, we’d made the decision, with the assistance of the school education psychologist and Ava’s teacher, to keep her back. As someone who had repeated Grade 6 myself, it was an incredibly tough decision for me. I worried about the message it would send Ava, I worried about how it would affect her. I worried if we were making the right decision. I just worried.
A year later and I can say with complete certainty that we made the right decision.
Ava has blossomed this year, in part because she has had a truly incredible teacher, but also because she was emotionally ready to face the challenges that lay ahead.
A teacher has the power to make or break a child. Ava had a teacher this year that embraced & encouraged her creativity & quirkiness. A teacher who described her as a fruit loop in a bowl of cheerios. A teacher who taught her how to believe in herself & how to shine. A teacher who nurtured her strengths & taught her to fly! I am eternally grateful for all she has done & for the foundation she has given Ava! #parenting #parentingblogger
She has had a tough year!
But she has grown in leaps and bounds. She has faced her fears of repeating grade R, had to deal with some bullies and lots of questions from her friends about why she is not in Grade 1 with the rest of them, but she has taken it all in her stride and she has shone.
Her teacher has repeatedly told us what an amazing student she is, what a natural leader she is, how creative she is, how dedicated she is, how popular she is, how she always goes the extra mile to present something extraordinary with her school work and I believe all of this is because she is now emotionally at a place that enables her to do these things.
Yesterday she won the award for EXCELLENCE IN ALL AREAS.
Pride leaking from my eyes! Keeping Ava back this year was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make but seeing her being awarded the prize for EXCELLENCE IN ALL AREAS has made every bit of doubt, worry & sadness over this decision worth it! Spread your wings my angel & FLY! #parentingblogger #parenting
And I burst into tears when I heard that.
From my little girl who really struggled to this star in one year and all because we gave her the chance and the time to shine.
We could have pushed her on to Grade 1 last year, but I didn’t want her to struggle year in and year out. I didn’t want her to always be the baby of the class, I didn’t want her to always be the follower. I wanted her to excel, to be a leader, to be confident and repeating Grade R has given her that and so much more.
So many people find my blog by searching – “Should my child repeat Grade R”
And honestly, knowing what I know now, if that is even a question in your mind, then the answer is yes! Follow the steps, have your child assessed by an educational psychologist, meet and discuss with the teachers.Put your pride in your pocket and follow your instincts, you won’t regret it.
So many of our friends questioned our decision to keep Ava back last year but in my heart I knew we were doing the right thing. I’ve seen so many other friends push their children through each year and it’s unnecessary. Give them a chance to find their feet and to shine.
Ava will face a new challenge next year, as she moves on to Grade 1, she will also be going to a new school, but am more confident than ever that we have given her the opportunity, the tools and the time to shine and she will smash it.
Walter reminds her constantly, there are only 3 rules for school:
- Listen to your teacher
- Do your best
- Have fun