Symptoms Of THIS 2ww!

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I have to say, things are moving along swiftly on the one hand and at a snails pace on the other. I used to think the 2ww after IVF was torture, but its proving to be a walk in the park in comparison to this wait! One week too babies due date!! It may feel like another year before we actually get there.

Symptoms? Hell yes, just like the IVF 2ww, I have symptoms. I cry at the drop of the hat! I’m nauseous, mostly because my stomach churns constantly, I can’t eat, when I do eat I gag when swallowing. I’m battling to sleep and am awake every day from around 3am, just lying there day dreaming about what lies ahead. I’m distracted and I can’t think straight and I appear to be paralyzed. There are about a million things we need to do before next week and aside from getting our finger prints done and our police clearance application sent off and playing around with baby names, I’ve done pretty much nothing.

I think things will start to happen this weekend. We arrive in Cape Town on Friday at lunch time and my Mom and Dad are taking W and I to choose a travel system (up till two days ago I thought it was called a pram!) for our baby, there gift to us! I’m really excited about that! Then on Saturday morning we are going to baby goods shopping, to try and get all the goodies we’ll need for the first few days. On Saturday afternoon we’re going to meet our birth mum and finalize everything with our amazing social workers. Sunday will be spent gift shopping for the BM.

Initially, I wanted to buy her a hospital bag and fill it will all kinds of goodies, over and above the special keep sake we will get for her. But after yesterday’s discussion with our SW’s, I’m not sure how much use that will be for her as she’s opted for natural birth in the local provincial hospital, it means that her stay in hospital will be very short and there’s a strong possibility that we will take baby home the same day. But I really really want to get her something else aside from the keep sake, any suggestions?

W and I have played around with some idea’s for a keep sake, so far I’m leaning towards something like this:

Heart_Charm_Bracelet

We’re thinking of looking for a heart style locket charm for a charm bracelet or something that symbolizes the 4 of us (BM, Baby, W & I) and our hearts intertwined forever. I’m sure we’ll find the perfect gift on Sunday.

So for now, I painstakingly survive from one moment into the next counting down the minutes and the hours of the longest 2ww I could ever have imagined. I’m very thankful for our wonderful SW’s. I probably would have gone insane by now, but their kindness, guidance and reassurance has really helped me cope!

December 10, 2009
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28 Comments

  • Reply Elana Kahn

    I think a charm bracelet is a great idea! I can’t wait to hear about the names you’ve picked too. Do you know what gender the baby is?

    December 10, 2009 at 6:11 am
  • Reply Gen

    I think that is a wonderful idea, usually the first is the best !!

    December 10, 2009 at 6:52 am
  • Reply Rach

    Has it sunk in yet?

    I can’t believe you’re about to cross to the othe side…..another one bites the dust.

    December 10, 2009 at 6:59 am
  • Reply K

    I think the charm bracelet is a very special idea.. no wonder it seems impossible to get something to symbolize such a significant occasion.. xxx

    December 10, 2009 at 7:44 am
  • Reply HopelesslyTTC

    I think a charm bracelet is a wonderful idea. This is all so exciting. Depending on where you are in Cape Town, you’re bound to find something that just shouts out to you guys as the perfect gift. Although remember, as far as the BM is concerned, the two of you offering to raise, nurture, provide a home filled with undying love and protection for her little one, may be the best gift anyone could ever possibly give her…and we’re all sure you’ll be just doing that!

    December 10, 2009 at 7:49 am
  • Reply Kristin

    I think that is such a beautiful idea.

    December 10, 2009 at 7:58 am
  • Reply Lea White

    I love the charm bracelet idea. That is so cool.

    December 10, 2009 at 8:06 am
  • Reply Abs

    Hey Shaz, so exciting! What about a charm with the babies birth stone in it so that it is symbolic of the little miracle she brought into the world for you and W? Such a hard thing to buy! You have great taste, I’m sure whatever you choose will be both beautiful and meaningful. xxx

    December 10, 2009 at 8:20 am
  • Reply Melanie

    I agree with Abs, the charm bracelet with the babies birthstone sounds nice.
    I am so excited for you.

    December 10, 2009 at 8:44 am
  • Reply Tam

    That’s a lovely gift Shaz, I’m sure you’ll find something just perfect!!

    Time is going so quickly now, I’m sure it doesn’t feel like it for you but it’s not long to go now.

    I also can’t wait to hear what the baby is and what you will name him/her. Going shopping for baby will make it so much more real!

    I’m sure we’ll have a baby shower soon for you tho πŸ˜‰

    December 10, 2009 at 8:45 am
  • Reply Sian

    I can’t wait till next week! So I can just imagine how excited and nervous you must be. I like the idea of the heart. I got the same type of thing for my donor as well as a little angel figurine.

    December 10, 2009 at 9:11 am
  • Reply Robyn

    Every time I read one of your posts I get all teary. You are going to be an absolutely amazing Mom. Even though you must be petrified, you are still thinking so caringly of the BM. I know you will find the perfect gift and it will have special meaning to all of you. Good luck for this weekend. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    December 10, 2009 at 9:27 am
  • Reply Adi

    Yes, I agree, something that is more symbolic rather than practical is perhaps a better idea. I think if I was in the BM’s shoes, anything that reminded me of the actual birth event would be painful, but something reminding me of the life that came after will be hopeful and a treasure. The bracelet is beautiful indeed. All the best for the weekend! Perfect weather down here… Appropriate for a perfect start to this little one’s life story.

    December 10, 2009 at 9:33 am
  • Reply Mash

    Any gift that you give her will be special, it’s the thought that counts. By the way, did you know that Canal Walk is open until 9pm every night, so if you hit a wobbly one night while you are here – that’s always there for the emergency shopping. I like Sian’s angel figurine idea too, they have stunning angel figurines carved from wood in the shops here. Have a safe flight and good luck!

    December 10, 2009 at 10:11 am
  • Reply Jenny

    This must be so overwhelming for you Shaz. It’s so quick and surreal but you will fall in love and never look back. So exciting.

    December 10, 2009 at 11:34 am
  • Reply Baby Smiling In Back Seat

    A pram would be self-contained. A travel system involves the car seat snapping into a frame. Don’t worry, you’ll need a pram too, eventually.

    If you’re planning to read any books on baby care (sleep, scheduling, dealing with a fussy baby, etc.) I’d suggest reading them now during your 2WW. Once the baby comes you won’t have time, and you won’t want to stop in the middle of a nappy change or while comforting a screaming baby to consult a book.

    So excited for you! Hope that everything goes smoothly, for you, BM, and baby.

    December 10, 2009 at 11:40 am
  • Reply Yvonne

    Shaz I swear my mouth is still gaping open. My modem was struck by lightening and I’ve only just gotten back online for the first time in over a week – to THIS amazing news. I’m so desperately happy for you, I just cannot believe this is happening.

    BIG BIG hugs, I can’t believe that this christmas you’ll have your new baby cradled in your arms – isn’t it amazing how quickly life can change??? πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    Do you know whether it’s a boy or a girl? πŸ˜‰

    WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

    x
    Yvonne

    December 10, 2009 at 12:06 pm
  • Reply Julia

    All those feeling that you experience are completely normal for a mom-to-be. Just go with it. Will BM be induced if she hasn’t given birth by her due date? Are you and your hubby going to be present in the delivery room?
    I am in tears everytime I read your posts these days and I’m really so so excited for you and your hubby. So amazing how God works and how things can change in a heartbeat. All the best for this weekend. I’ll be thinking of you and your hubby and praying that all goes well.
    ps…CT weather is fabulous at the moment.
    pps…I love the idea of a charm bracelet with the birthstone. I’m not sure what else you could add to that. Maybe a devotional-type book.xx

    December 10, 2009 at 12:27 pm
  • Reply SCY

    Beautiful idea on the charm bracelet. I also like the idea of Ab’s to include the birth stone of the baby…

    Enjoy shopping and getting through this wait my friend – it’s coming to an end sooner than you think!

    xxx

    December 10, 2009 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Ali

    soo exciting. i think that a charm bracelet would be a great gift.

    December 10, 2009 at 3:37 pm
  • Reply SassyCupcakes

    I’m so excited for you. I think the locket idea is beautiful, but I wouldn’t worry too much for now. I’m sure once you’ve met her it will be easier to pick the perfect gift for her. I’ll be thinking about you. πŸ™‚

    December 10, 2009 at 10:03 pm
  • Reply Cruella Deville

    Hi Shaz!

    Please will you post pictures of baby when you receive him / her?

    Try not to stress too much about all the arrangements leading up to the week end, the buying of the keepsake for the BM etc. I hope you will get to drink in every special moment when the moment arrives for you to meet your baby and hold, smell, hear and feel him/ her for the first time. Take lots of photo`s, so that you and W can relive that larger-than-life experience for as many times as you want to, in the future.

    Thinking of you.

    December 10, 2009 at 10:11 pm
  • Reply Denise

    I am so unbelievably happy for you. The universe has conspired to reassure that this is the correct path the speed at which this has happened for you truly points to you doing the right thing. This is truly an amazing time for you.

    Congratulations!!!

    December 11, 2009 at 8:20 am
  • Reply Bratty

    Hi Sharon, sorry for late post but I am so happy that finally a new life is beginning for you, W and baby. A new year, a new dream and a new reality…isn’t it wonderfully knowing that dreams do come true. It is just the waiting thats painful…but like Mom says “Good things always come to those that wait”…and you deserve the prize of “Top Notch Mom”…
    The bracelet is a wonderful gift with much thought about connections…

    Enjoy every moment

    December 11, 2009 at 11:32 am
  • Reply SA

    Hi there,

    Ive been following your blog for some time and Im so happy for you that you are finally getting your dream. I am a BM, my daughter was given for adoption 17 yrs ago. 3 month ago, I met her for the first time and as we speak, she is travelling from JHB to stay with me in CT and meet her siblings etc for a week. Her 17th birthday is next week, the first I will spend with her since her birth! Seems like next week will be a good one for more reasons that one!!

    Anyhow, I was presented with a beautiful heart locket on a chain at her birth and think its a wonder gift for your BM. A little hamper with some luxary pamper goods will also be most appreciated.

    A huge good luck and cant wait to read your good news!!

    xxx

    December 11, 2009 at 12:17 pm
  • Reply sophie

    By now you are already in Cape Town.
    Wishing you all the best and may all the hope and the dreams, cultivated during all these years, become real.

    Once again Congratulations !!

    December 11, 2009 at 5:43 pm
  • Reply Yvonne

    Eeeek thinking about you non-stop and DESPERATE for an update πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    December 11, 2009 at 10:09 pm
  • Reply jan

    so excited for you and can’t wait to hear all the exciting news of the weekend wow youre going to be a mommy!!

    December 12, 2009 at 4:08 am
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