That Damn Rule Of Thumb!

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We have ourselves a situation! One I’m not at all pleased about, but following a few of months of struggle and taking advice from other Mom’s, I think the time has come that the inevitable can no longer be ignored.

Ava-Grace is (sadly) ready to drop all her day time naps and I’m feeling rather desperate about it. I’ve been told that the rule of thumb is if you’re struggling to get your toddler to sleep at night, then it’s time to drop the last day time nap!

And we’ve been struggling. We’ve been struggling a good two months or more. It started before we moved into our new house and we’ve been here almost three months so we really can’t ignore it anymore.

Ava still naps easily for around 2 hours each afternoon but our bed time routine that used to be so peaceful and pleasurable has become a sodding nightmare. No longer happy to lie in her bed with a bottle and bed time story before drifting off to sleep. She now takes up to 2 hours to fall asleep at night, coming out of her room countless times and crying big crocodile tears each time we return her to her room. She tries every tactic under the sun. Sneaking into the lounge and asking what we’re doing or trying to watch the TV somewhere where we can’t see her. Asking all kinds of delay tactic questions, saying she’s hungry and wants more to eat (which we’ve tested and she is not hungry nor does she actually want more to eat).

We have tried every other tactic under the sun to avoid dropping her day time nap, from putting her to bed later, to limiting her day time naps to an hour. None of it has worked.

The only way to get her to bed at night easily, without a fuss and my frustration odometer going past the read zone is to not let her have an afternoon nap. On the days that she does not nap, she does not show any additional tetchiness or irritability because of tiredness and best of all she plops off to sleep within 5 minutes of putting her to bed at night. No time time excursions, no answering of a million questions, she just turns over and in minutes she’s lights out.

It would seem that weekend naps for Mom and Dad will now become a thing of the past too and I’m so very sad about it. I do savor those two hours on a Saturday and Sunday afternoon of lying on the couch with a book or watching non-kiddie related TV.

I suppose all things related to early childhood rearing there isn’t a set standard, just a time when each child become ready to move to the next level and I think we can no longer ignore the signs with Ava.

In other news my little princess is very ill at the moment and last 48 hours have been exhausting! She’s had a fever since yesterday that has left her red cheeked, glossy eyed and delirious. I actually got very scared last night when she started having hallucinations about dogs attacking her and stealing her food. Last night was the worst night we’ve had with her since she was a newborn. She went to bed under duress, took almost 2 hours to go to sleep which means she only slept after 9pm and then she has been awake since 1h30 this morning. So you can imagine, I’m sitting here bleary eyed and exhausted. The good news is that it’s nothing serious, a case of sinusitis and a throat infection and she’s back on antibiotics to clear it up, sadly something I’d hoped we’d be able to avoid for a bit longer since her tonsils have been removed.

A tough weekend of no napping lies ahead but I’m hoping her antibiotics kick in soon so I can at least have my sweet little toddler back and not the super grumpy little lethargic thing she currently is.

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June 29, 2012
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7 Comments

  • Reply Laura

    I actually would suffer the lack of nap for an easy bedtime. Kiara went through that 2 hour get to sleep thing and I hated it. By bed time I NEED them to go to bed. Fighting for longer than 5 minutes turns me into super fierce bad mom :-/

    Glad you have meds etc for her – hope tonight is better!

    June 29, 2012 at 3:44 pm
  • Reply Jenny

    I feel your pain: hated it when Dyl stopped napping but you adjust – for a while you and W can take afternoon nap turns and now he is old enough to leave us alone when we nap but of course Evan will grow up soon. But then I am hoping Dyl keeps her amused lol! She will be super tired in the evening once you drop a nap and you may have to push bedtime a little earlier for a while.

    June 29, 2012 at 3:44 pm
  • Reply Margot

    We are there too, I am equally devastated…

    June 29, 2012 at 3:58 pm
  • Reply Paula

    Sadly my kids all stopped napping in the day at 18 months. However, they also go to bed without a problem at all so it is a ‘win some lose some’ situation! Good luck!

    June 29, 2012 at 5:16 pm
  • Reply Lisa-Marie

    In some ways, I’m looking forward to dropping this sleep – it would mean alot more outings; and invitations-for-lunch acceptances!
    HOWEVER, like you, I would seriously miss that 2-hour quiet time!!
    Good luck with this, my special friend.
    xo

    July 2, 2012 at 6:52 am
  • Reply Sue Stuart

    Oh goodness I am dreading the day we need to drop the lunchtime nap! Fortunately we’re not there yet, and although Katy has started employing bedtime-delay-tactics she’s still sound asleep by around 7.30pm so it’s not bad yet. She’s still a very early bird, so I’m hoping the naps stick around for a long time yet! Hope Ava-Grace is feeling much better by now.

    July 2, 2012 at 9:52 am
  • Reply Tania

    I hear you on the naps, it was horror when our kids dropped theirs!
    Husband and I now take turns to have an hour each to ourselves, locked behind our bedroom door just to stay sane.

    July 2, 2012 at 1:49 pm
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