Our new nanny, has been with us just over a month now and it’s going…. ok. She’s just not Loveness, but in all fairness, Loveness was with us for 8 years, she hasn’t even been with us for 8 weeks. But really, Loveness is irreplaceable and I don’t feel I will every find someone like her ever again.
While the new nanny is excellent at the house work and really good with Hannah, I just don’t feel that she’s as good with Ava. She seems short tempered and almost militant in her communication with her and it’s starting to worry me a little. I also don’t think she’s giving Ava the attention she needs in the afternoons when she’s home from school.
And there was Monday… Monday was the day she got to see me lose my shit!
When I got home, I went to my room to change, where I discovered that Ava had gotten hold of a tub of hand cream and smeared it all over my bed, linen, comforter, TV and stereo. Everything was a mass of goo. To add insult to injury, when I walked past Ava’s room, I discovered the carnage continued there. She’d also taken cream out of her own draws and smeared it all over her window and soft toys in her room. This is a sure sign of two things for me: boredom and not being supervised properly. She’s clearly being left to her own devices and this for me is a problem.
I headed into the kitchen to collect cleaning supplies to start cleaning up the mess and what I saw on my microwave made me literally see red and emit steam from my ears and fire from my flared nostrils. Stuck on my microwave was a dirty, old , used plaster that she (the nanny) had removed from a wound on her hand, complete with crusties, to reapply to her hand before leaving for the day.
Obviously I had a firm discussion with her about how that was unhygienic and not to ever be done again in my house. I also explained to why I was upset over what Ava had done in the bedrooms and that I felt she was not supervising Ava properly.
Now, I obviously am still using the iBaby which comes with sound and it picks up sound from a wide radius, so even if they’re not in Hannah’s room where the iBaby is set up, if I turn the sound on, I can hear a lot of what is going on in the house and I overheard her berating Ava in a way that made me unhappy. She’s not being mean but she just seems to be totally lacking in nurturing when it comes to Ava and it’s really starting to become a concern for me.
Walter also mentioned that he’d overheard her speaking with Ava yesterday morning in a less than kind, loving way. And I guess that’s the biggest difference between her and Loveness. Loveness was, well, full of love and nurturing for both my girls and I really miss that.
The worst part is that its given me trust issues which is a huge concern for me, I need to know that I have someone I can completely trust. In all the years Loveness worked for us, even if I’d kakked her out about something, she never ever took it out on Ava and was always loving and kind talking to “my princess” as she called Ava with nothing but love and nurturing.
I’m not sure what is going to happen, but I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable about the whole situation.