The Thing About Blogging…

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Be Kind

Is that some readers forget that a blog is a tiny snapshot into somebody’s life. What I share here on my blog is less than 1% of who I am, what I’m about and my life. And yet, some readers think that because they’ve read a few of your blog posts they know you, are entitled to make harsh judgements about you and leave comments that are less than kind.  Of course, I’m not naive, I know that comes with the territory and having been a blogger for 6 years now, I’ve learned what to take to heart and what to ignore. I’ve learned that not everyone is going to agree with me, or like me or what I write about and that’s totally ok, different strokes for different folks. The mean comments rarely see the light of day, I moderate my comments quite intensely, this is after all MY spot on the web and not a democracy where you can come and have a field day at my expense. Don’t got something nice to say? Don’t say it at all!

But once in a while, a comment comes through with such thinly veiled callousness that it’s hard for me to ignore. Like the commenter who called my children half breeds, like the commenter, from years ago when I was still an infertility blogger, who said I was such a mess that my nickname should be roadkill because it was impossible to look away from the mess I was and then last week, a commenter, who kindly noted that she was a new reader to my blog and I shouldn’t take it the wrong way, but that I show favouritism of Ava over Hannah?

Really? You got that from reading my blog? You’ve never met me, met my children, been to my home or seen my interaction between my children and I? You know less than 1% about me and my children. But yet, you are a reader with “no vested interest”  who felt it was necessary to point this out to me?

*delete delete delete*

Comments like that are not welcome in my spot on the web. If you can’t be kind, you can’t be a commenter on my blog. Period. If you can’t separate a blog from the real world, then I’m really not sure you should be reading blogs.

Right, now I’ve had my little rant, I’m off to double check all the details for Hannah’s 1st birthday party tomorrow (which in spite of your sage advice, no professional photographer will be attending).

Rant over.

Over & out!

 

 

February 21, 2014
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13 Comments

  • Reply Coco

    Yikes that is harsh comments from readers! I am truly sorry if I offended you in any way with reference to the photographer I meant it as a compliment to Bronwyn but in hindsight I can see that it may have offended, I am truly sorry.

    February 21, 2014 at 10:35 am
    • Reply Sharon

      LOL! I wasn’t offended at all by your comment! Swear, this wasn’t directed at you at all!

      February 21, 2014 at 10:36 am
      • Reply Coco

        Phew thank you but I will take more note of my comments in future 🙂 Have a fabulous party tomorrow!!

        February 21, 2014 at 10:40 am
  • Reply Nisey

    Sadly I don’t think this is limited to blogging. Moms at school, passers by in restaurants, family, friends etc etc

    We are all guilty of it (mostly we don’t voice our thoughts out loud – thank heavens for adult filters!) but I think the problem with blogging is the anonymity that people hide behind and think its ok to remove the filters!

    I wish people would remember that we are all doing the best we can with the information we have at the time and keep their unsupportive opinions to themselves (yes, I mean me too!)

    February 21, 2014 at 10:43 am
  • Reply cat@jugglingact

    Oh heavens – how the hec can you show favoritism in a blog????? Thats all. Stupid person

    February 21, 2014 at 10:52 am
  • Reply Sian

    WHAT!?! Not sure how the got that from your blog at all.

    February 21, 2014 at 12:06 pm
  • Reply Lynette Jacobs

    They need to get a life of their own…so that they stop embellishing on yours.

    February 21, 2014 at 12:36 pm
  • Reply Gaelyn Cokayne

    Goodness – I’ve had 1 nasty comment since I started blogging last Sep and it cuts right to the heart and soul. I hope people think twice before posting a comment, questioning whether what they’re posting could be seen as hurtful by the writer! Hope the party is absolutely fabulous!!!

    February 21, 2014 at 1:51 pm
  • Reply MamaZombieZA

    You know, when i read stuff like this, it actually makes me sort of happy that no one ever reads my blog. lol!

    what asshats.

    February 21, 2014 at 2:17 pm
  • Reply ailsaloudon

    People need to think twice before posting but I suppose we all want to air our opinions – even if they are nasty. Have a super party and I’m sure the kids will love it!

    February 22, 2014 at 1:01 pm
  • Reply Julia

    I’m sorry that this has happened to you. I have to agree with Denise though – it happens in real life too. People don’t have a freaking clue what’s really going on – they just make assumptions!

    February 24, 2014 at 8:37 pm
  • Reply Ncumisa

    Love the part that said *delete delete delete*

    February 27, 2014 at 5:10 pm
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