Before I get into the nitty gritty of this post, I want to state up front that the opinions expressed below are simply that, opinions, my opinions and this post is in no way meant to offend anyone.
So, piercing. More specifically, piercing my 2 year old daughters ears.
I know a lot of people pierce their baby girls ears, something which is more prevalent in some cultures than what it is in others. I’m English, South African English, it’s generally not a practice that is followed by my cultural group. Walter is Afrikaans, it is a more widely practiced tradition in his culture. I don’t like it, Walter does.
Two days ago he pipes up and says he thinks Ava would look really cute with pierced ears. I’m not so sure. For me, ear piercing is like a right of passage. I got my ears pierced when I was 8 years old, after I’d asked my Mom and Dad to get it done. It was a gift my parents gave me as a reward. The condition was, if I passed my year with a certain grade, I could have my ears pierced. I worked hard and I passed my year with the required grade. The Saturday after my report was delivered, my Mom and Dad took me to town (doesn’t that sound old fashioned) and we went to get my ears pierced. I wanted it so badly but I was scared. I made my parents walk up and down Wynberg main road about 4 times, each time we passed the jewellery shop, I’d say that yes I wanted my ears pierced, we’d go in, the lady would get everything ready then I’d freak out, say I didn’t want it any more and walk out. Rinse, repeat 3 times. On the 4th time my Dad stepped in, told me to stop being ridiculous, pushed me down on the chair and before I even knew it, my ears were pierced. I have not ever regretted getting my ears pierced. But I do feel it was a right of passage in a way and I wanted it to be the same way for Ava.
I wanted us to make a special Mom & Daughters day out when the time came for her to get her ears pierced. Go do a little shopping, have some lunch and then as her right of passage, get her ears pierced, the time would be right when SHE asked me for it.
Walter see’s it differently. He feel that we should have it done now, while she’s still too little to know or understand that it may hurt a little and avoid the trauma of the experience. But I’m not convinced.
I don’t like earrings on a little girl. I feel it’s doing something pretty much permanent to her body without giving her a say or a choice in it.
The problem with my argument that it should be something that is done only when she asks for it, is the fact that she is already asking for it. She’s forever trying to get my earrings on her ears, she even has sticker earrings that she sticks on her ears. Now what?
If you have a little girl, did you pierce her ears? What are your thoughts and opinions on this. I’m really still unconvinced that it’s the right thing to do.