We Don’t Call People Fatty Round Here!

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Ava and Hannah are as different as chalk and cheese, in every single way possible! But there polar oppositeness (is there even such a word?) is never more apparent than in their physical appearance. Ava was always a slight, petite baby, with super fine features and skinny arms and legs.

Hannah is the total opposite.She has the most delicious, squishy body! We joke about her stomper legs all the time, we take great pleasure in squeezing her massively round, dimply bum, the rolls on her wrists and her kankles. She is a chubby checker. When we go out, she is referred to a Mafuta by strangers & everyone comments on her cute chubbiness.

We are a nickname kind of family…. I mean we are the Nut house, Walter = Numb Nuts, Me = Crazy Nuts, Ava = Monkey Nuts  & Hannah we call Dough Nuts! She, like all of the VW family, has a number of nicknames…. Hannah Banana, Piesang, Piesang Brood, Hannie and worst of all Fatty!

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Fatty is the nickname that has stuck and used most frequently and I keep saying we need to stop it. I don’t want to give her a complex about her size or her weight or how she looks. She is gorgeously perfect and I don’t want her to grow up having a complex about herself because of a nickname we so flippantly call her.

The real error of our ways became abundantly clear these holidays when Ava started refusing to wear certain pants and didn’t want me to see her in her swimming costume. When I asked her why, she said it was because she was fat! She’s FOUR for goodness sakes! FOUR! She’d put on a pair of shorts and tell me her thighs were fat (they’re not, not even by a long shot) and when I’d ask her where she through she was fat, she’d point at her legs!

Now I know I have a very poor body image and it would appear that between my body issues and everyone so casually calling Hannah Fatty, that this has started to rub off on Ava and make her hyper aware of her own body.

So we’ve decided as a collective to no longer call Hannah Fatty, or any other derogatory name referring to her body, this is important for both my girls. It’s also made me more aware of how I talk about myself in front of them. I can no longer refer to myself in a casual manner but have to constantly be aware of what message I’m sending them with my words and actions towards myself, which are clearly not complimentary.

This is one near years resolution we have to stick to. No more Fatty’s in the VW home!

January 9, 2014
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11 Comments

  • Reply bluebirdscrapper75

    I am so painfully aware of this too! Constantly!! Isabella is overweight for her size; by around 6-8kg – and percentage wise, if you were to compare that to an adult, that is alot.
    Travers calls her ‘our chunky’ from time to time – but out of her earshot. And I really don’t like it when he does, although I know it’s meant with absolutely no malice.
    I don’t like to (and we try hard not to) use the word ‘fat’ around her – in fact, I have never heard her use the word. Sometimes I use it loosely – “look at this love fat tomato” – which I immediately regret. They are so innocent and prejudice-free that it pays to keep it that way for as long as we can!
    I LOVE your ‘nuts’ names!!
    oxxo

    January 9, 2014 at 9:50 am
  • Reply Rene

    This is such an important issue. My brothers daughter was about 5 or 6 and stick thin when I saw her looking in a full length mirror, turning sideways and complaining about her big tummy (which was absolutely non-existant). She would also only eat half a cookie in fear of getting fat. I then vowed that if I have children I would never mention my body issues in front of them. I do complain about my body, but only when it’s me and my husband around, and I don’t think my almost 6 year old even knows about dieting, except in the sense of a healthy diet.

    But no matter how hard I try my daughter still picks up these things from school

    January 9, 2014 at 10:36 am
  • Reply karen

    I think you’re right in changing that nickname. I’m very aware about how I talk about and treat myself around my daughter. From personal experience, nicknames like that do effect you. My sister always called me Stinky and I had issues around that even though I wasn’t

    January 9, 2014 at 11:57 am
  • Reply Ankia

    It’s amazing how kids listen to everything we say. I was telling hubs about my body fat % that was dropping so nicely & then once during the holidays when I ate cake James asked me (very seriously) “what about your body fat Mommy?” We must always be aware of this 😉

    January 9, 2014 at 2:49 pm
  • Reply CharlieW

    My little girl is turning 3 next week, and she is one of the reasons why I will be joining you in the fat2fab challenge. I want her to have a happy and confident mom. I don’t want her growing up with my body issues. PS Kyk daai mooi boude!!!

    January 10, 2014 at 9:37 am
  • Reply Kristin

    I can’t handle hearing parents calling their child fat, or any weight related nickname. My Mother often referred to me as fat (which I really wasn’t) and hey guess what? I am fat! And clearly a touch bitter 😛

    January 13, 2014 at 11:34 am
  • Reply Robyn

    Please can I have a bite of that delicious bum! Gorgeous! We too are guilty of nicknames that could be toxic, thanks for the reminder!! Need to check what we say around the kids for sure!

    January 15, 2014 at 2:37 pm
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