We get a bum rap, a lot of the time.
It’s kind of a damned if you do and damned if you don’t. When we’re authentic, we’re accused of being negative and when we’re upbeat and positive, we’re fake. And this often comes from our very own readers. Believe me, I’ve seen the thinly veiled snark and remarks online to know this for a fact. As a mommy blogger, first and foremost, I’m also very aware that we’re not taken seriously as bloggers and writers. This was never more clear to me than when I was fielding a comment from someone a couple of weeks ago, said in jest, but with a strong undercurrent of truth, that I should pretty much shut my mouth, not voice my opinion and perhaps I should just stick with writing about the colour of baby poo. Big diss.
And this is not isolated incident or a local issue either.
Yesterday a post was shared on the South African Mom Blogs FB page that got our community talking. An overseas mom blogger who wrote a scathing and frankly mean, spiteful, ugly, bitter <insert relevant adjective here> about Mommy bloggers and why we’re all, frankly, just crap. Apparently we can’t write for sh*t. We use too many exclamation marks!!!! We lie about our stats??? And we’re just basically a dishonest bunch of bleggers only out for free samples, we’re basically the pond scum of the blogging community. I won’t share the link to that particular post, I think she’s had enough air time.
And this does not come only from bloggers, it comes from blog readers and even digital marketers who are supposed to work with the Mommy blogging community. (I’ve seen this first hand).
But my question is, or rather, what I’m trying to get straight in my own head, is why our community is seen this way? Why are we poked fun at? Why are we not taken seriously? Why we’re seen as only good enough for sharing cutesy pictures of our baby with a little blurb about the colour of their poo?
I mean, I’m not a cutesy person. Far from it. My story is hardly cutesy either. It’s ugly and harsh and emotional and dark but it’s also filled with hope and triumph and I hardly think of myself as a cutesy writer. I’m opinionated and strong willed, as most bloggers are, and unafraid to share my opinion, so don’t tell me to shut up and write about baby poo. Because I won’t! I don’t!
But what is it about Mom bloggers that garners this reaction from people? Why are we not taken seriously? Why are we seen as dishonest bleggers? I read some of the comments on the FB thread yesterday and saw that even some within our own community see us this way.
Why is it this way?
I honestly don’t know.
I’d honestly like to know?
And how do we change that perception?
After all, Mom bloggers are strong, multi-dimensional women, brave enough to put themselves out there and share their thoughts, opinions and experiences with others, while often facing harsh and at times, unfair criticisms. So what makes anyone think we’re only worthy of writing about the colour of baby poo?