• wheresmybun

    May 6, 2010 at 9:17 am

    Stunning pics hon. Your little one is so gorgeous!

    As for the above post, I think it would be useful if you elaborated a bit. By voyeurs, do mean people reading your blog? Because the word voyeurs for me has the meaning that people are spying on you without your knowledge. I’m also now confused. And as for being mindful about other’s feelings who are still in the trenches…don’t know really how to express myself, but you need to look after yourself and your family first, be kind to yourself, let yourself off the hook, part of moving on, is actually really moving on. I don’t think for one minute, and I’m probably going to get lynched here, but I don’t care, because no matter how much people think they will still keep everyones feeling in mind and act appropriately according to the infertile code of conduct when they fall pregnant or adopt, they will be so overjoyed and in awe and in love, they they would not be able to contain themselves. And I don’t think that anyone else will spend as much energy to preserve everyone else’s feeling like you have. I would like to say, please relax about it, it will get better and it will sort it self out in due time. It’s time that we live and let live, without putting so much pressure on those who have received their blessings to conform to their way of thinking. We can’t be everything to everyone, and I believe in my heart that you are doing yourself more harm than good.

    I’ve learnt a hard lesson this year, and that is that I cannot fix anyone else’s problems or lighten their load in any way by my own words and actions. We all have issues, please stop taking it upon yourself. yes I know you would like to be the perfect friend, mother, wife, daughter, employee, but that is just going to get you into trouble. Your first priority is your hubby, then your child, then your work, then your family and lastly your friends. Remember that.

    I am sorry you are hurting so much, please forgive me for my preachy post, but I worry about you a lot, and I don’t want to see you burnt out and feeling rejected, just because you are doing everything right and it will never ever be good enough. I love you, and only hope for the best and the most beautiful blessings for you and your family.

  • jonivdw

    May 6, 2010 at 2:28 pm

    Oh Shaz, she is just soo soo gorgeous and not only does she look like W, but she’s starting to resemble you too!! She’s going to be one pretty pretty little girl! And she looks like she may have a cheeky side to her if you look at her smile!! Too damn cute!!!

  • samcy

    May 6, 2010 at 2:39 pm

    Re above post. I don’t know what’s happened to make you feel this way, but I too like wheresmybun am confused by the word you’ve used. I’m here for you if you want to talk about it. As I said on twitter yesterday I don’t know who could ignore Ava… she’s way to gorgeous for that.

    I can only say that it’s naturally very confusing for you in this time of your life because of your history. But it’s time now to embrace the present and future and all it holds. And in order to do that perhaps you need to “let go” of the past? I don’t know. One can’t give advise without background.

    Hugs to you.



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