All Done!

We completed all our paperwork this weekend. It was very very hard work. The questions in the Home Study are extremely difficult to answer, mostly because we hadn’t really thought about them before.

I mean, do you have the answers for the following questions:

  1. What is your child rearing philosophy?
  2. What is your child care plan?
  3. Who have you selected as guardians for your child?
  4. What is your motivation and attitude towards adoption?
  5. Integration of children into your home?
  6. Integration of children into your extended family?
  7. Exposing the child to your social environment, peers and others?
  8. What roll, if any, will the Birth Mother have in the child’s life?

It took hours to complete the home study. We also finished preparing all our financial documents and a balance sheet of our finances. We’ve got our proof of employment, proof of education, proof of insurance. I’ve filled in all the paperwork regarding our family histories and our fertility history.

Today’s goal – discuss my maternity leave and maternity benefits with my employers. I’m kind of nervous to tell them I’m taking 6 months off whether they like it or not! I also need to discuss with them a back up plan should we have one of those sudden adoptions? And how we plan to proceed when I leave for maternity leave. I’ve been with this company 5 years, my clients are very set on dealing with me. Whenever they hear of a new employee, they contact our directors to inform them they refuse to deal with anyone else. Well sorry folks, you’re going to have to and hopefully its in the very near future too. I also need to know about compensation while I’m on maternity leave etc etc etc.

So wish me luck, this discussion feels very surreal and I’m quite nervous about it!

Also just wanted to add a big thank you again to everyone who has sent messages of support and sms’s and FB messages and tweets on Twitter. It is greatly appreciated. But are not expecting feedback for some time as we were informed by the social workers that this step of adoptive parent selection does take some time. I will update you all as soon as I have information.

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  • Reply Sian

    It must feel good to get going and start getting everything in place! I hope that the wait is really short.

    November 30, 2009 at 12:27 pm
  • Reply SCY

    I have never thought of the answers to those questions… I mean maybe a bit of how we’d bring our children up but whoa that is hectic stuff. Glad it’s all done and dusted.

    Sure the company will look after you Shaz. You’ve been good to them they will surely repay the hard work and loyalty.

    Hope we get to hear soon and have huge celebrations!


    November 30, 2009 at 1:33 pm
  • Reply Abs

    Some tough questions for anyone to answer never mind under pressure! It must be great to get the ball rolling and be doing something towards making this all happen! I pray it’s not long now till you get that call. xx

    November 30, 2009 at 1:41 pm
  • Reply Rach

    Hope it all works out for you xxx

    November 30, 2009 at 2:19 pm
  • Reply Elize

    Whoa, those are deep questions, I was looking forward to hearing your news today, must say the waiting is killing me, can’t imagine how you’re feeling. Good luck, I really hope you get chosen.

    November 30, 2009 at 3:09 pm
  • Reply sassy

    Wow, I am so glad you’re doing this. How exciting!!

    November 30, 2009 at 4:21 pm
  • Reply Jenny

    sadly most parents who just get knocked up never have to answer those questions. goes to show how much harder (!) it actually is to adopt… good luck shaz.

    November 30, 2009 at 6:56 pm
  • Reply Lea White

    Wow, that is hard hey? Hoping your discussions went well, they are never easy, but hopefully they will be truly supportive.

    Lots of prayers and thoughts!!!

    November 30, 2009 at 7:41 pm
  • Reply C

    Hope the maternity benefits discussion went well.

    Those are some really tough questions, to be honest I never really thought about them, well to be honest I have not really thought about actually having a baby in a number of years.

    I pray you get your baby soon!

    November 30, 2009 at 9:16 pm
  • Reply jan

    thinknig of and praying for a great outcome for you guys!!

    November 30, 2009 at 9:27 pm
  • Reply Denise

    Hey Sharon, I don’t know if you’re a fan of brothers and sisters but in the last episode Kitty adopted a baby and was present at the birth. I think it must be the most amazing experience. Hopefully you can tell us all about it really soon!

    December 1, 2009 at 6:34 am
  • Reply Yvonne

    Goodness me that is a very indepth home study!!
    Still keeping everything crossed for some good news asap!!!


    December 1, 2009 at 8:52 am
  • Reply Joni

    As my Social Worker said when we had to answer all these questions, she wonders how many parents (who have kids already) would actually pass screening…. We also had to answer all these questions but unlike you we had to answer them on the fly whilst in the interview!! Count yourself lucky you could prepare!! We must of done ok though!! hee hee!!!

    December 1, 2009 at 10:31 am
    • Reply Sharon

      We had to do both. We answered all of these questions in our interview and introduction last week and then had to put it all down on paper again over the weekend.
      But seriously Joni, I wonder how many people out there who have children think about those things and can answer those questions before they made babies? I know I didn’t till now!

      December 1, 2009 at 10:34 am

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