What would you have done?
We have our Loveness, and I love that woman dearly, she is part of our family and she is so kind and loving with Ava and our lives would be much more difficult without her. So I would never ever want to do anything to hurt her or embarrass her.
We are approaching midsummer here, it is scorching hot. Loveness does not live with us, she travels in each day from her flat in the CBD, via taxi, which drops her off on the main road and she walks the 500m’s to our house to start her work day at 07h30 each day. She is super glamorous. Always dressed in a pants suite, with matching bag and shoes. Loveness does not look like a nanny, she refuses to wear those “house dresses” that so many nannies wear. Instead, when she arrives at work, she changes into a pair of tailored shorts with spaghetti strapped top, or a little black dress & on cooler days she keeps a pair of tracksuit pants and a fitted long-sleeved white top and then she begins her work day. When she’s not on the floor playing with Ava, she is working, really really hard. Despite us owning things like mops and wood floor cleaning mops, she still believes in good old-fashioned elbow grease, she will get down on her hands and knees and clean the floors with a cloth, this woman works like a trojan.
So here is the problem, in the past month, more often than not, when I come home from work and scoop my baby up into my arms, I can smell Lovenss’s sweat on her. I can smell sweat on Loveness and I can smell sweat in the cupboard where Loveness keeps her clothes. This beautiful and immaculate woman, works hard and in this heat, I’m not surprised that she sweats, but I really don’t like my baby smelling of sweat.I also have this sneaking suspicion that she doesn’t use deodorant.
I’ve been wracking my brains on how to broach the subject with her. I love her dearly and I know her appearance is important to her and I really don’t want to embarrass her but at the same time I really don’t want my baby smelling sweaty.
So yesterday, on my way home, I stopped at Clicks and picked out a nice fresh smelling bottle of deodorant and a few other toiletries for her which, when she left yesterday, I went and stacked in the cupboard with her work clothes, with a little note stating these were for her use when she was at work.
I almost burst into tears this morning, when she came out dressed for the work day and smelling of the deodorant I’d purchased for her yesterday. I don’t want her to think I’m being mean, I don’t want her to be embarrassed but I really didn’t know how else to handle it without hurting her feelings and making is super uncomfortable for all of us.
How would you have handled it?