An Unexpected “Side Effect”!

There are a lot of things about being a new mother that one can never really be prepared for. No matter how your friends who’ve gone on ahead try to prepare you, you can, for example, never be prepared or fully understand just how all consuming being a mother is until you’re in it. I was completely unprepared for the fierceness of the love I would feel for my daughter, I mean logically I  knew it would be that way, but I couldn’t relate to the feeling or understand it until she was here.

One of the things I hadn’t been prepared for was just how much more sensitive being a mother would make me. I’ve always been sensitive, I’ve always had a fairly sophisticated sense of compassion, I am able to put myself in others shoes and empathize with their pain or suffering. What shocked me was how that would multiply by a hundred times when I became a mother. I was completely unprepared for this because I had always been compassionate to start with. But now that I have a child of my own, when I hear stories of baby Ashleigh’s passing or baby Laila’s appalling treatment and subsequent brain damage, I can’t help imaging how I would feel if that was my child, I can’t help but be heartbroken for these children and also their parents, in ways that cannot be explained or understood.

And it seems not just affect new Mom’s but new Dad’s too. W is as affected by all of this, whenever we hear one of these stories he gets tearful and says things like, imagine if that were our little darling?

Its odd how having a child can mature and change one so emotionally in ways one never dreamed possible.


  • Lea White

    March 9, 2010 at 9:51 am

    And that is why we ended up deciding to move to NZ, it was around the time of Baby Micayla that we made the big decision. It just shook me to the core and I promised Bianca on that day (she was only 2 months old) we would bring her here. Nobody can ever understand until you are a parent.

  • Tanya

    March 9, 2010 at 11:56 am

    I am exactly the same – I am a wreck when it comes to all things mothering/kid related. I cry when I read the papers, and even cried during Sandra Bullock’s Oscar acceptance speech when she mentioned moms!

  • Julia

    March 9, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    Definitely. I think that motherhood has connected me to the world like nothing else ever has. When I listen to the news or read about children getting hurt then I just want to cry because I keep thinking what if that were one of my boys. And Kirsty is right….it gets worse as they get older..xx

  • Catluva

    March 10, 2010 at 7:17 am

    Oh I agree Sharon, I can’t watch a movie where a child gets hurt or abused without switching to another channel now and kids on street corners, where’s my purse, I’d love to be able to help them all.


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