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Apparently I’m A Mommy Blogger Who Kick’s Arse!

blog-awardWell according to Reluctant Mom anyway and that’s kind of cool ‘cos I secretly consider myself a bit of a ball breaking arse kicker so yeah! I read RM, I read you challenge and I accept!

What are you working on right now?

Not having a heart attack….

Let’s just say I’m the master at biting off more than I can chew. I’m also time urgent which means that I’m currently a giant ball of stress right now. Between my paying job, which is currently in peak trading period and my non paying job, this here little blog with it’s #Tistheseason run of give away’s, attending events and then also squeezing in time to be a wife and mother of two…. lets just say I’ll be surprised if I make it to next week Friday with my sanity in tact. As it stands right now, my vision of how next week ends is of me, in a straight jacket, in a padded cell, rocking myself while laughing manically at how I’ve completely lost the plot! Of course, the extra pressure I love to put on myself doesn’t end there. In between all that, I still have to finish start my Christmas shopping and celebrate Ava’s 4the birthday and then begin the preparation for hosting 15 people for Christmas lunch not to mention the parties and events we have lined up this weekend…. *begins rocking and laughing like a maniac*

Where did the idea for The Blessed Barrenness blog come from?

I didn’t start out as a mommy blogger. I started out as a very bitter, damaged and hurting infertility blogger, known as Mindful Meanderings. I started my blog back in 2008 as a way to try and purge some of the negativity, self loathing and hurt that I was experiencing during our infertility journey and blogging really helped me develop a sense of community and of being understood and not so alone amongst my infertility sisters. After Ava’s placement my blog changed to I Believe In Miracles and then a short while later The Blessed Barrenness was born.

What does your typical day look like?

*blush* I fall out of bed, feeling exhausted and looking like this:


I work the tired-80’s-rocker look, complete with black rings around my eyes quite well don’t you think?

Once I’ve completed my ablutions, which usually including an audience of Ava making comments like: “I can see your donsie (vajajay)” or having my naked butt smacked followed by peels of 4 year old giggles, I head to Hannah’s room where I invariably land up with poop on my fingers while trying to clean up her first morning butt explosion. Then it’s bottle time and feeding time at the zoo which usually includes having to shout at someone to finish eating their breakfast, I also guilty trying to sneak in 5 precious moments with my beloved Kindle while Walter takes a shower and  Eva arrives to start her work day.

From there my day is pretty much a blur of phone calls, technology, stress, freak outs, secret crying in the office toilets, sitting in traffic, feeding children, wiping arses, bathing and bottling and getting the kids into bed by 7pm, ‘cos, so help me God my sanity stays in tact for one reason and one reason only, by 7pm I get to sit down with a glass of wine and enjoy some time with my husband.

How do you bring ideas to life?

Wine… talking… wine… talking, if I have an idea, I’m not afraid to ask whoever I need to ask to bring an idea into existence and I’ve learned that usually when I have an idea and I ask for assistance, the answer is rarely no.

What’s one trend that really excites you?

Time alone with my Kindle, wine, an evening out with my husband, wine, the treats PR agencies send me, wine, holidays, wine, idea’s & plans really excite me, oh and WINE!

What was the worst job you ever had and what did you learn from it?

I’ve had a few “worst” jobs! As a teenager I pushed a trolley at a nursery for the old folks… they walk really slowly and can be really indecisive!

I also worked (for about 5 days) as a cashier at my local Pick ‘n Pay… It nearly bored me to tears and I quit on my 5th day when I accidentally charged a customer R1000 for one bog roll!

If you were to start again, what would you do differently?

I’d try to enjoy the childfree years that Walter and I had together. While being a mother was/is my dream, in hindsight, I realize there is a lot to be said for living childfree, by choice other otherwise.

If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be and how would you go about it?

Only one thing? That’s really hard because there are SO many causes close to my heart – stop rape, equality (gender & racial), world peace, a cure for AIDS, a cure for ALL cancers, a cure Malaria, enforced vaccinations, child abuse, woman abuse, infanticide, femmicide, animal cruelty, ban animal testing, ban animals in circuses, and now that I’m sounding like a Miss Universe entrant… honestly, I don’t know how we go about changing any of these things.

Tell us a secret.

I’m a skinny girl trapped inside a fat girls body!

I’m afraid of become senile, I have noticed since turning 40 that I have a tendency to be forgetful and it scares me!

What are your three favorite online tools or resources and what do you love about them?

Twitter – its like Face Book on steriods.

Instagram – I’m an instaddict!

Good Reads – where I get all my book recommendations.

What is the one book that you recommend people should read and why?

So hard to choose just one. My favorite book of 2013 is definitely Melissa Delport’s Rainfall. I can’t rave enough about this book. I’ve read in excess of 50 books this year and this one stands head and shoulders above the rest!

Tertia Albertyn’s So Close – Infertile And Addicted To Hope also ranks as one of my all time favourite books. It resonated with me, made me realize I wasn’t alone on my lonely journey through infertility and gave me so much hope. It made me laugh and it made me cry but it made me realize everything would be ok in the end. Its a great book for everyone to read, whether you’re struggling with infertility or know someone who struggled with infertility.

Three people we should follow on Twitter and why?

@toryngreen – lead singer of an American rock band… reason – cos his hot… not much more I can say about that! *blush*

@BevanCullinan – Gary The Tooth Fairy… nuff said!

@TheJoLurie – she’s sharp & witty & coined my favourite name: cocktonsil

When was the last time you laughed out loud? What caused it?

I’m on Twitter, I laugh out loud a lot!

Who is your hero?

My dad! Period! He has taught and given me so much, I am the person I am today because of who he is. Even though his nature has rubbed off on me as an adult and we can have rather heated discussions and debates and I don’t always agree with him anymore, but he has always been there for me, ALWAYS, and he has been a shining example to me.

Bloggers who you would like to take part?

Cupcake Mummy

Raising Men

Stacey Vee

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