What would you do?

There’s this woman who’s been following my blog and who’s blog I’ve been following for a number of years. We’ve been friends on Facebook for ages as well, I used to think of her as a blog buddy, but this past year, I’ve really started to wonder…

She has become increasingly hostile towards me ever since Ava was born. She never comments on my blog postings about my life as a mother, but is quick to comment when I write about my infertility experience and quick to criticise and pick apart every thought I share on my life as an infertile.

I’ve really tried being kind to her, I understand that it must be hard, 10 years is a long time to TTC and battle recurrent miscarriages. My heart really went out to her. But over time, the more bitter and hostile she’s been towards me, the more my heart has hardened towards her. Today was the final straw.

Today, a year ago, we’d just landed in Cape Town and our Social Worker assessment was scheduled for two days time and I’m sorry to say, but yes, I still marvel at my good fortune, I still give thanks everyday for our miracle. So this morning, I quite innocently put this up as my Facebook status:


Sharon Van Wyk

Sharon Van Wyk can’t believe that this time a year ago we had just arrived in Cape Town for our assessment with the Social Workers to start the adoption process… we could never have imagined a year later we’d have a teething, crawling, mischievous 11 month old! Counting my blessings & praising God today!

Within minutes this appeared as said person’s status update:

yes, yes your life is perfect, gush gush…..

Perhaps I’m being a little over sensitive, but I couldn’t help feeling that this was being directed at me. And really, I’m over the passive/aggressive hostile nastiness already. Of course, I have learned over the past 11 months that not everyone will be happy for me and some will only be happy for a short while before the happiness turns to bitterness and for a while I sucked it up. I tried to remember why people reacted to me the way they did. But frankly, I’ve had enough of it.

I’ve removed said person’s access to my blog and also unfriended her on Facebook. But I’m tempted to send her an email as well, explaining why I’ve taken the actions I have. Walter is against that, he says I should just boot her off my blog and remove her from Facebook and leave it at that.

What would you do?