Right, so the one thing I have learned in the last year is that babies don’t come with a manual and there clearly isn’t a right way or a wrong way of doing things, it’s really more a matter of finding a way that works for you!

So yesterday we headed out to our baby clinic for Ava’s one year vaccinations. I was armed with the info from our pead visit as well as all the tips and advise from you, my blog readers, ready to sit down and have a good chin wag with the clinic sister about the right way forward for Ava because a lot of the tips, advise and expert opinion from the pead were contradictory. So after 5 minutes of chatting to the clinic sister I realized that I wasn’t going to get clarity from her either. She contradicted the pead, she contradicted a lot of what you all have said. It was then that I realized that probably the best way to get around Ava’s feeding & weight issues is to pick and choose from all the bits of advice and opinions and find what works best for us.

For now, I’ve made the decision that as long as my child eats, it doesn’t matter what, as long as she eats. Yesterday morning, she ate half a jar of Purity Summer Fruit dessert for breakfast and I was happy with that, at least she’d eaten something that had nutritional value. So that is now our approach. We offer her food, often, about 5 mini meals a day and we’re sticking to the 200ml bottles of full cream cows milk. Interesting, as a side note, the clinic sister poo’poo’d all the stage 3 milks as well, but her opinion is that they’re just a money-making racket and we should keep Ava on stage 2 formula. I’ve also started her on Crèche Guard after reading up on its ability to stimulate appetite, reduce snotty noses and its natural deworming ingredients. We still give Ava one full meal a day as baby mush, with added butter and cream to try to increase the caloric value and the rest is finger foods, with me shoving bits of food into her mouth when she’s distracted. The other thing that we’ve found has worked really well, not a great habit, but for now, like dummy sucking or numb sucking, I’m not going to stress about it, is we allow her to eat with the TV on during especially difficult meals as Teletubbies and Tweenies distract her enough that we can shovel some food into her mouth – keep quiet please Mommy Police!

There is also a difference between the measurements that the pead and the clinic took. The clinic have Ava weighting more at 9.9kg’s but also taller and 79cm’s, which basically equates still to tall and skinny.

The one thing I loved that the clinic sister said is that because Ava is a good sleeper we can be sure she is not malnourished or hungry because she wouldn’t sleep through if she was.

So for now, I’m trying to set my frustration and concern aside and just forge ahead, one little mouthful at a time!