We were in Cape Town for Christmas and met up with Auntie Wilna for a late lunch with some friends who have also adopted with her. It was a very special day and spending time with Auntie Wilna reminded me so much of the time we (you and I) spent together after Ava’s birth, memories of that day that I hold close and will treasure forever. How special you made the experience for me, being able to be present when you delivered Ava, the special moments we spent together in the ward after the birth, these moments live in my heart and I remember them daily.
A month later, the day before Mother’s Day, my mom and birth mother laid eyes on each other for the first time. They hugged each other as if they were long-lost friends and shared many tears and laughs over the next six hours. I was so relieved, because one of my biggest fears was being put in a position where I’d have to choose sides, but based on how Gloria and Monika were behaving with each other, that didn’t seem to be a worry.
Over the next several years, we formed relationships. We spent time at each other’s homes and got to know each other better. The most surprising relationship that has come out of all this is the relationship between Gloria and Monika. They adore each other and have spent endless hours together chatting away as if they have known each other their entire lives. I am the common bond that ties them together, but their relationship has evolved beyond that. I am so grateful that the woman who gave birth to me and the woman who raised me love each other unconditionally. It is a true testament to motherly love.
I see us in this description, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that Ava is the common bond that will tie us together for eternity and you know, I’m really ok with that, I’m more than ok, I’m honoured to be apart of something so special and to share this experience with you and with Ava.