I’ve “known” Dorette for YEARS! I say known, but we’ve never actually met. We became online friends during our years of infertility on an infertility support forum. I absolutely LOVED Dorette’s attitude, especially this:
Happiness is an attitude!
I also loved that she had such a gorgeous photo shoot done! I think all women need to do this, we get to see ourselves through they eyes of someone else and often are surprised by what they see versus what we see.
Now, as a mature woman, do you have any regrets? Anything you wish you could go back and do differently?
That I didn’t know myself better earlier. That I didn’t believe earlier on that I should be true to myself, embrace my unique personality and not change for others (read men).
If you could talk to your 20 or 30 something self, what would be one piece of advice you’d give yourself.
Like yourself, you are (good) enough, accept your flaws or work toward bettering them (if possible) – always – live more consciously in all aspects of your life – acknowledge the things you like and the things you don’t like and it is okay to say no without giving an explanation. Don’t worry about what other people think of you or their opinions in general.
What has been one/some of the biggest changes you’ve noticed within yourself since turning forty?
More self-confidence and general acceptance of everybody’s uniqueness, inner peace
What do you still hope to achieve in your forties?
Play piano again
A little bit more inner peace
What advice would you give to women who are fearful about approaching forty?
Forty is NOT OLD! You don’t need to act old/mature suddenly. Embrace this fabulous decade and enjoy it. Do things you always wanted to do, start playing tennis or piano, knit, crochet, run whatever. If you lost yourself somewhere before 40 due to life just being life – reclaim that girl! You owe it to yourself!
What is one of societies stereotypes about women in their forties that you wish you could change?
That you should dress in a certain way, i.e. look old – don’t be mutton dressed as lamb but if you want, wear ‘young’ clothes, hairstyles etc
That you can’t/shouldn’t date younger men (late 20’s/early 30’s) 😉 – and not necessarily in a cougar/milf type of way – just an additional matter that piss me off lately, I want to crack about the stereotype that older women/younger men are still an issue to society 😊 if you are single and in your forty’s and fabulous and don’t look a day over 28 😊 why shouldn’t you date someone that age! And the media should not fuel this stereotype with stupid headings.
Any parting thoughts or comments?
I hope to keep on being an inspiration to younger friends and make them see that being happy in life is pretty much about your attitude and that you can’t/shouldn’t allow someone/something to dim your sparkle. Easier said than done sometimes but older people with great attitudes and an amazing/happy outlook on life is an inspiration to me, so that keeps one going through tough times.
Thank you so much for Dorette! I loved your sexy photo shoot and you look amazing! Whoever thinks 40 is old, is just…. well…. young & dumb really! 🙂
Would you like to be featured in our Fierce, Fearless, Fabulous Forty series?
Then drop me an email.