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Girl Shopping – It’s Not As Much Fun As It Used To Be!

I’ve been a girl Mom for almost 3 years and I was a boy Mom for a day. Comparing those two experiences,  I will say this… girl shopping is much more fun, I found boy shopping very limited and uninspiring.

Having said all of that, shopping for Ava is not as much fun as it used to be and its proving to be more and more challenging. This child of mine is stubborn and knows what she likes and what she doesn’t like and God help you if you try to get her to wear something she doesn’t like.

I’ve written before about how difficult it is to shop for her for underpants, well, she’s taken her level of fussinyess and extended that now to her entire wardrobe and its looking more and more like I’m going to have to take her with in future when doing her clothes shopping, something I do try to avoid at all costs because it’s difficult to concentrate on what I’m trying to shop for when she throws her own ideas in the trolley, runs off, squishes every Sweetie Pie in the bulk box (what she did on Saturday) has mini melt downs, wants to be carried, doesn’t want to be carried, wants to sit in the trolley, doesn’t want to sit in the trolley, wants to hold my hand, wants to run as far ahead of me as possible, wants to go home 5 minutes after arriving or simply wants to continue to play on the coin operated horse/car/fire engine… anyway, you get the picture.

Yesterday, after seeing the cute girls goodies advertised in the latest Ackermans catalogue, I decided to head to my closest branch and stock up on some summer goodies for her… alone! I love Ackerman’s kiddies clothes, they’re well priced, decent quality and not designed to make my (almost) 3 year old look like a grown up so it’s often my store of choice for her everyday clothing.

I came home with two big bags of goodies and out of everything I bought, she only likes the “Spowa” (Dora The Explorer) T-shirt, insisted on putting it on yesterday, wanted to sleep in it last night and wanted to wear it again today.

Her standard response to everything else is: “I no like it!”

Shoes are proving to be especially challenging!


Star High Tops
These she refuses to wear because they’re not pink!
She goes totally bat shit crazy if I try to get her to wear these! Like as in looses it complete with much hysteria and snot!
These she simply refuses to wear and when I asked her why she says its because of “the yellow flower and I don’t like yellow”!
Getting her dressed in the mornings is a test of my patience, she is so fussy, the pants are too short, the pants are too long, the pants aren’t pink, she doesn’t want the pink one, she doesn’t want to wear a dress, she will only wear a dress.
Somebody send me patience please, the daily struggle of getting her dressed is proving to be a test of my endurance and I’m not sure I can hold out much longer!



  • Tash

    October 1, 2012 at 2:23 pm

    Have Ava and Aurora been conspiring? I have the same issue with everything – shoes, clothes, food, movies, toys, books, paints, crayons – the list is endless… Everything is a mission at this age I think.

    Now I throw 3 outfits onto the bed (usually mix ‘n match so she doesn’t look odd) and let her choose what she wants to wear for the day. So far (hold thumbs) it’s working… lol

    • Sharon

      October 1, 2012 at 2:32 pm

      I’m starting to think the terrible 2’s only really starts at 3. Ava is developing stronger and stronger opinions about everything the closer to she gets to 3 and this is making her harder and harder to deal with!

  • Tertia Emerson

    October 1, 2012 at 2:32 pm

    hahaha!! Thank goodness i have a BOY!!! but this too has its moments like this morning.. he saw the new spiderman tshirt i bought and promptly wips off the one he was wearing and insists on the “piderman” one.. i have NO idea where he has learnt who the F spiderman is as we hve never watched a spidey movie or even a cartoon…

  • Anita Boxoza (@anitaboxoza)

    October 1, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    sitting at my desk giggling 🙂 Kamva and Ava are the same! She sees kids at her school with barbie\dora\barney on their clothes and tells me she wants the same so I lied and told her I don’t have money to buy that stuff, bad I know but seriously she would never take the clothes off if I bought her anything with barbie! Hello kitty I buy but refuse to buy the others. I take her with me when I buy her clothes but I tell her where she can choose from, same in the morning, she can choose her own clothes\shoes as long its weather appropriate! Re the boy shopping, I have not bought anything for this new baby because I don’t know what to get! If its not blue its green, I need more of a selection!!

    I love ackermans, got some really cute summer stuff there that had no Dola(Dora) Try Mr Price too they have some cute dresses and sandals, but they do tend to make little girls ‘sexy’ they sometimes shrink the adult clothes! Not good

  • Beth

    October 1, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    Shopping for boys is rather uninspiring at best. I catch myself looking o er at the girls section longingly.

    I’m sure we are going to have a difficult time dressing two fussy kids at the same time in the future but for now we get to play dress up. Although often i’ll put clothes out for the boys only to have begin!W completely change the outfit because she doesn’t like what I put out. let the challenges

  • Jenny

    October 1, 2012 at 4:25 pm

    ooh boy! all I can say is Dyl was very very much like this – and he sort of has grown out of it, but still has his moments. What usually helps if he sees his friends wearing the same shoes (for eg) then he is okay with them.

  • Laura

    October 1, 2012 at 4:30 pm

    Oh Sharon!! I totally understand this post!!!! Kiara is like this – I can not buy anything without her – not even a plain white t-shirt.

    We went shopping a while ago and she would feel the clothes and go “no no no no” – it was draining. Her sensory issues add to the challenge :-/ But if I buy stuff for her that she doesn’t like she WILL NOT wear them!!!! I have given away bags of brand new clothes!

    Don’t even get me started on shoes!

  • Charlotte

    October 1, 2012 at 5:09 pm

    Wai until you get to age 6. The clothing options are so limited in the stores (to correct myself – there are only certain items I will allow my daughter to wear as most of it makes her look like a age 6 hooker) so not only do any store stock only 2 tshirts I will allow her to wear and she doesn’t like either most of the time. Lorelai I am lucky with as she knows she gets a 2 pants, tops each morning and has to pick one. Good luck Sharon

  • Sue Stuart

    October 1, 2012 at 5:34 pm

    You are describing Katy to a T! I bought a lot of clothes for her on the Woolies/Edgars sales at the end of last summer, and she will wear almost none of it! Not to mention shoes! That is tear-my-hair-out time! Never mind shopping with her…..

  • Marina

    October 2, 2012 at 9:41 am

    Luckily for me Claudio only complains about some of his clothes, but it only lasts a couple of weeks and then he’s ok with them again. But a good tip from my sister who has a daughter, now aged 8, is that she used to put out 2 different outfits every day and let her choose which one she wanted to wear. Maybe that could help? Good luck!

  • Spiritedmama1

    October 2, 2012 at 10:31 am

    Goodluck. I bought 3 new pairs of shoes and the Dudie only wears one Everyday. Consistently…. Was thinking that from now on I only buy one pair at a time. And until that pair is in tehthers I will not buy again… But hey I’m a self confessed shopaholic and I can not shop for any f us 🙂

    And I agree Girls have way better options than boys….

  • Lisa-Marie

    October 3, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    LOL at the sweetie pies!!!!! Monkey bean!
    I was a TERROR to shop with and would throw myself down on the floor in a temper tantrum! Literally. Those were the days when my mom could – fairly safely – walk away.
    Having said that, I am pooping myself more than a little for these upcoming fights. As it is, she is already kicking up a fuss about what I choose for her and is under her daddy’s influence (grrrrr) goes off to school with ODD SHOES!!!!!!!
    I can’t bear it…

  • Mandy

    October 3, 2012 at 11:00 pm

    Sharon, I empathise completely … try do it with twins – a pigeon pair – and then you can guestimate what I am up against!! They are four and Emma, especially, is very opinionated … good luck, skat – this road, however rewarding, is not altogether on Mama’s side!! I am a recent ‘voyeur’ of your blog and am so excited that Elise Loots is something that we have in common … what an amazing woman. Inbox me on pondo@live.co.za, if you want to. Mandy


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