God In All Of This

My best friend, Sam, received news of a negative GIFT this week. The same day she went to the airport to fetch her Dad’s ashes after his passing earlier this year. She is, understandably, devastated, as are many of us who love her and are rooting for her. We had a long discussion yesterday afternoon about it all and about God in all of it. Sam is deeply spiritual and has a strong bond with God. But she is angry with him over the failure of her GIFT and of the difficult circumstances she’s been in over the past couple of months. She feels abandoned and ignored by Him.  I recall feeling that same anger, feeling as if I was ignored by Him when our FET resulted in our 7th miscarriage last year, so I can completely relate to how she’s feeling at the moment.

A fellow blogger, Niki,  just found out that her husband has incurable, untreatable cancer with “not long” as his diagnosis.

All of these situations make one wonder where God is in all of this? The eternal question of why bad things happen to good people? I don’t know how to answer that. I never have, its all so confusing and so conflicting. Then yesterday I received a beautiful email from support forum friend who reads my blog and I think she answered the question perfectly, for me anyway, its help make sense of the whole good things to bad people and bad things to good people:

I have many friends that have had atrocious things happen to them and no, it
is never God’s plan for us to suffer but the reality is that we live in a
fallen world and bad stuff happens to good people. God’s challenge to us is
how we react to the bad situation and through our faith and the support of
God and other Christians we are then able to turn an awful situation into a
positive experience. Friends whose child was stillborn that have now started
a support group for other parents in a similar situation, Maritza and Tertia
that started Fertilicare / wrote So Close that has been such a source of
information and support to others suffering with infertility. The list is
just endless.There’s a verse in Romans * vs 28 “And we know that in all
things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called
according to his purpose. I’ll write what my Bible says about this verse:
God works in “all things” – not just isolated incidents – for our good. This
does not mean that all that happens to us is good. Evil is prevalent in our
fallen world, but God is able to turn every circumstance around for our
long-range good. Note that God is not working to make us happy, but to
fulfil his purpose.

I love that paragraph. I think Katherine has explained so perfectly what we all grapple with daily when we see such bad things happenig that just don’t seem to make any sense. Of course, it does not take away our anger or our pain to know this, but for me at least, this paragraph has helped me to understand something I have long since struggled with.

There is so much suffering in the world today, its hard not to ask where is God in all of it, to not be saddened and brought to tears by the suffering we see around us.

Please will you take the time to go and offer support and not the voyeuristic type, but real support to these two amazing women who are facing such terrible trials and heartache.

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  • Reply Katherine

    I spot a typo (mine) it’s Romans 8 vs 28, not Romans*

    March 4, 2010 at 9:15 am
  • Reply Mash

    I totally agree, I feel so strongly about this too. I’m not even religeous, I don’t go to church, but that there is a plan for each of us is so abundantly clear to me. Just like a child who is terrified on his first day of school, and yet his mother still takes him there for his greater good, so we must experience these sometimes painful things, and we don’t understand why. It’s about surrendering to the Universe/God/Allah/Buddha or whatever your version of it is.

    March 4, 2010 at 9:20 am
  • Reply Denise

    God is such a huge concept to understand that sometimes its best not to try. I completely agree with Katherine though I’m not a christian. God expects us to grow from these experiences and hard though it may seem at the time, when you are in the depths of despair – there will be light.

    Sharon, you of all people know this to be true.

    March 4, 2010 at 12:18 pm
  • Reply Nix

    Thank you S, it’s difficult to understand and the pain is sometimes unbearable, but somehow we get through it.

    March 4, 2010 at 1:43 pm
  • Reply Bratty

    What true words spoken…..made my heart fill with joy and my eyes with tears.

    March 4, 2010 at 2:29 pm
  • Reply WiseGuy

    I am very sorry for both Sam and Niki. I guess almost all religions preach something akin to what Katherine has quoted.

    All beautiful words….and all too difficult to justify.

    To have my IVF fail because it was God’s will is a good thing, then God could just have willed me to not go through the whole cycle.

    I don’t know. I am very fluid on this God thing right now.

    March 4, 2010 at 3:24 pm
  • Reply WiseGuy

    ‘He could have saved the other guy from drowning, but didn’t’.

    – a la Eminem in ‘Stan’

    March 4, 2010 at 3:27 pm
  • Reply Kristin

    What beautiful words.

    March 4, 2010 at 3:31 pm
  • Reply Kirsty

    beautiful words x. Am thinking of everyone who is facing their own battle and struggling x

    March 4, 2010 at 5:21 pm
  • Reply Julia

    So beautiful and so true. And amazingly we do get through it all…xx

    March 4, 2010 at 6:42 pm
  • Reply SCY

    That is so totally true and beautiful… I might not 100% believe it right now cos I’m way too angry with Him to believe that some good is going to come out of my pain right now (not just the IF pain but everything) but deep in my heart I know the truth… He does love me and feel my pain… as hard as it is to go through right now…


    March 4, 2010 at 9:16 pm
  • Reply susan

    I love that! So well written.

    March 5, 2010 at 5:25 pm
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