Hair Razing….

Hair razing… blood curdling… screaming… crying… wailing….

This is what happens in my home every time Ava has her hair brushed!

Granted she has a lot of hair. A lot of exceptionally thick, curly hair. She has the kind of hair most of us would give our left arm for! But it is also the bane of her life and by extension mine.

It was, until last week, also extremely long.

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I tried desperately to convince her that we should cut it off, I really thought with her curls, she’d rock this shorter style, but my 5-going-on-15 year old told me in no uncertain terms that this was not going to happen.

In fact, her reaction was this: “Well this is awkward (said in an exaggerated American accent)That’s really ugly!”

So after much begging on her part, I relented and we trimmed/cut her hair to shoulder length. It reduced the blood curdling screaming to just whimpering with each brushing session.


The thing is though, I’ve spent a small fortune on hair products and speciality brushes to try and control Ava’s pain and my anguish. And really, all that money and time spent researching exorbitantly expensive products have really not helped us one bit.

We have a collection of brushes, the most successful of which are the Tangle Teezer and the Tangle Tamer, but guys, have you seen the price of these brushes? *gasp*

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Her hair is also very dry, so we have to use paraben and sulphate free hair products. Any products that contain parabens and sulphates make her hair even drier, frizzier and more impossible to manage and brush. I have tried washing her hair only once a week, every second day and twice a week to see if we could find a happy balance. She has a huge collection of spray’s, detanglers and serum’s, none of which seem to have much of an effect at all.

The most success I’ve had in terms of hair products with her hair is MOROCCANOIL and this doesn’t come cheap. Add to that the masses of hair she has and the products don’t go far either.

Mostly I’m at my wits end. Short of shaving her head and there is no way madam is going to allow that, I really just don’t know what to do anymore! What are your go-to hair paraben & sulphate free hair products and speciality hair brushes and how do you manage your kids hair?



  • Marcelle

    July 15, 2015 at 12:47 pm

    My daughter has very, very curly hair and also pretty long and she also doesn’t want to cut it… when she was just about a year old, a friend came over with this ridiculous round black completely plastic brush. He said “I brought you this magic brush from our barber” I laughed, but accepted the kind gesture. WELL, let me tell you, the brush is indeed, truly magical!! I split her hair with a grip and brush it out quick sticks with this brush (in fact, you are reminding me to get a second one in case something should happen to this one!)
    We also use Victorian Garden shampoos and conditioners – the conditioner has lasted almost 3 years – I put a teaspoon into a 250ml spray bottle and spray it onto her damp hair and just leave it in. Really amazing for her hair. So I only wash her hair when it’s really dirty and that can sometimes be once every two weeks! I just spritz some leave in conditioner on the ends, brush out and voila!

    Good luck!

    • Sharon

      July 15, 2015 at 12:51 pm

      Yip, I know the brush, it’s the Tangle Teezer. Farking expensive little round brush that has sadly not proven magical in Ava’s mane!

    • Corrina

      July 15, 2015 at 1:02 pm

      You are so not alone on this one! My daughter has really long hair and the only thing that works for us is the Tangle Teezer and we also use a lovely product from Original Sprout called the “Miracle Detangler” . Not only does it do the trick but it smells divine too!

      The Miracle Detangler is free of mineral oils, DEA, colors or dyes. Nourishing organic extracts leave hair ultra soft, smooth & silky. Restores moisture without a waxy or greasy residue. Helps strengthen all hair types including delicate & chemically treated, breakage prone Sprouts. Makes combing effortless. Insects don’t like Rosemary but we do!

      100% Vegan
      For Babies, Children & Adults
      Glides Through Tough Tangles
      Free of Clove (Eye Numbing Agent)
      For Soft, Moisturized, Healthy Hair
      Soy, Strawberry, Peanut, Gluten & Dairy Free
      No Petroleum Oils, Parabens or Phytoestrogens (Tea Tree or Lavender Oil)
      No Dioxanes, Sulfates, Phthalates, Hydantoin DMDM (Formaldehyde) & Propylene Glycol

      Lice & Insects don’t like Organic Rosemary but We Love It!
      Free of Phytoestrogens Lavender & Tea Tree, Phthalates, Clove & Musk
      No Soy, Gluten, Honey, Peanut or Dairy
      No Nanoparticles or Titanium Dioxide
      100% Vegan

      Here is the link:

      Good luck!

  • Gail Schimmel

    July 15, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    Mine has dead straight hair that gets into terrible knots. My remedy is simple: if she is difficult about it, we’ll cut it. Yes, I have to remind her once a day, but then the screams stop.

  • Cassie

    July 15, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    Sharon I can so identify with you here. WE’ve tried all the fancy Tangle Brushes with no success. I eventually forked out close to R200 for a brush that worked on Moo. Its the Denman brush, I got it at Dischem. She does still cry but not nearly as much as she was before. Short of keeping her hair inconstant plaits I am also at wits end.

  • paddatjiesema

    July 15, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    I was so excited when I first heard about those brushes, and bought it, and it didn’t work at all on my daughter. It hurts her, and you can brush forever without getting any results.

    What’s been working for us is washing more often. I only wash twice a week, or if her hair has lots of knots in I wash it. I just use plain old Pantene shampoo and conditioner (the sleek hair one), and conditioner on her whole head. I tried so many different shampoos and that ended up being the best. Then after washing I don’t use a brush anymore, but a comb. But I comb it in thin layers at a time, from the bottom up. It takes long, but NO SCREAMING AND FIGHTING. Then I plait it when she goes to bed, and she knows she’s not allowed to go to bed without it being plaited. In the mornings I use the Johnsons Baby No more tangles spray, and a paddle brush. And I always tie it up.

    I can remember at school, my best friend never had any knots in her hair, and it was super easy to brush. Then one day I went for a sleepover, and her Mom rinsed her hair after washing with laundry softener. I know it worked, but must admit I’ve never tried it.

  • wannabepoet

    July 15, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    I have the opposite issue with Morgan-Lee; she’s had a total of 4 hair cuts (excluding the one she gave herself on the first day of holidays a few weeks ago) in the past 5.5 years; her hair is very fine and grows at the pace of a tortoise trudging through peanut butter! Wish I could help!

  • Dennis

    July 16, 2015 at 4:58 am

    My wife’s stylist uses a technique he learned from Vidal Sassoon to manage her extraordinarily thick hair. Depending on the look, he cuts four or five evenly space tracks from one side of her head around back to the other side, each track about 1 to 2 cm wide. The tracks are cut short with an electric razor. Her remaining layers of thick hair now has space to lay closer to her head. He then styles her hair to suit. The result is amazing, undetectable and her hair behaves well regardless the weather. It makes much easier to brush as well. This is probably a poor explaination, but a hairdresser will likely make sense of it.

  • Robyn

    July 16, 2015 at 9:42 am

    Sharon.. you think you’ve got problems.. you’ve seen my Hannah’s hair!! LOL! I wash it once a week and I always make a manageable style i.e two plaits so that the day to day brushing isn’t difficult. I use Mizani on her hair (paraben and sulphate free) and I use a daily oil/elixir because her hair is very dry. Because of her hair texture (afro) I would NEVER cut it short because I think this would be harder to manage! It’s kinda like deja vu when I do her hair… I vividly remember being tortured by my own mother during hair brushing sessions! LOL!

  • Harassedmom (@laurakim123)

    July 16, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    We have also been through pretty much everything there is. Currently Kiara finds that Dove works the best for her but she does go through a LOT of conditioner.

    She actually largely does her own hair now. She washes it and brushes it on her own. It makes life a lot easier.

    • Sharon

      July 17, 2015 at 9:00 am

      Thanks Laura.
      I try to steer clear of products tested on animals so the Dove range is a no go for us. But I did get a great tip from Rumtumtiggs about using pure coconut oil as a hair mask and then washing and not brushing her hair. I tried it last night and her hair looks amazing today. I’ll let you know how that goes!

  • Astrid

    July 17, 2015 at 9:22 am

    Have you ever wondered why Princesses dont struggle with knots ??? it’s because they sleep on satin pillows! I bought metres of satin in all different shades and had pillow slips made. No knots even if she sleeps with her hair loose and no breakage. I even have a few as it keeps the wrinkles at bay and my hair does not fall out anymore! Give it a try put your face on a cotton pillow slip and then on a satin one you will feel the difference you skin will not have that pull on it and I guess it does the same for your hair. Hope this helped 🙂


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