Happiness Is A Choice – Reflections Of A Scrapper

Sounds so simple right? And really it is… once you know how to do it… choosing happiness.

I learned how to choose happiness when I went through my divorce way back in 1998. It was a very difficult and trying time for me and I spent a lot of time in self reflection, looking at the choices I’d made and my power that I’d given up to others and losing my way in the process. I was deeply depressed and my internal struggle manifested in a physical reaction when my entire body erupted in one of the worst cases of Eczema my Dr had ever seen.

I was emotionally miserable and physically broken, I battled with terrible insomnia and spent the nights scratching my skin into a bloody mess while I went over and over in my head what had been done to me. Until I realized that in doing that, I was giving away my power, the essence of me and giving control of my physical and emotionally well being over to someone else, someone who didn’t deserve that power. It was then that I learned to make the choice to be happy, to not give my power to others, that ultimately I had the power to control my emotions and that being happy, in spite of everything, was my choice to make.

It was a valuable lesson and one I often have to remind myself of. But it not only taught me how to be happy in spite of the curve balls life threw my way, it also taught me how to be a fighter, a real scrapper and in the years that followed and the challenges I’ve faced, I’ve gone back to this lesson over and over again and reminded myself of its significance.

This lesson stood me in good steed during my long battle with infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss and more recently in some professional challenges that I have faced. You see, nobody should ever make the mistake of underestimating me, I am a fighter, a scrapper and I’ll come out guns blazing and I’ll do it with a smile on my face.

And while it’s been a tough few weeks, I’ve had a smile on my face and a song in my heart and that is showing life the ultimate toffee!

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  • Reply Laura-kim le Roux

    So right you are! I also think that going through a life changing experience like a divorce you are forced to look inward and fix what is “broken” within you – whether you broke it or someone else.

    I also spent many dark days after my divorce and can honestly say that I am glad in a way I did because now I know so much better what I want and also know now that I can have it.

    October 4, 2013 at 10:58 am
  • Reply Ailsa Jean Loudon

    So glad you have managed to overcome so much. I, too, have scratched myself bloody – never heard of it before!

    October 4, 2013 at 2:08 pm
  • Reply Sian

    You are so right. Its not easy and sometime I have to stop myself and remember to choose happiness. The best quote I ever heard was “Be responsible for the energy you bring to the world”

    October 7, 2013 at 8:23 am
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