I Had An Epiphany About… ME!

Because I am the Queen of last minute, I spent the better part of this evening ironing name tags onto all of Ava’s school clothes in preparation for the start of the school year tomorrow (Hooray! Yay! Woohoo!) and it’s really not a job I love. I hate ironing, I don’t ever touch our iron, sorry if I sound spoiled, but if our nanny goes away, we wear unironed clothes *gasp* because I just can’t bring myself to bare the torture of ironing! I can’t! I just can’t!

So I was having a little grumble on Face Book about how I was spending the evening and so many mom’s popped up saying… why am I ironing labels on to Ava’s clothes when I could just write her name in her clothes with a permanent marker.  Such a simple solution to avoid doing something I loathe but I just can’t do it. I can’t. I just can’t.

So I started thinking about why this was such an issue for me? Why couldn’t I just write her name in her clothes.It would make my life much easier and her clothes would me marked, granted, not with the totally cute Hello Kitty personalized labels I was currently painstakingly ironing into each item but still.. her name would be there.


But I just can’t do it and it really bothered me as to why I simply couldn’t take the easy way out. It bothered me that Ava wouldn’t have cute labels in her clothes, it bothered me that other people might think that Ava had a lazy mother. It bothered me that Ava may look around and see other kids with cute labels (I know right??) and wonder why I didn’t love her enough to do the same.

And that’s when it hit me. I have to do this long and arduous task because it’s an act of service and that is my primary love languages. Its a way of expressing my love for Ava, an important way for me to convey to her how much I love her, what she means to me. Crazy huh? She probably won’t even notice but it means so much to me. If I was my 4 year old self now, this would be a big deal for me, because of the act of love that it would represent for me.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.*

People who speak this love language seek to please their partners by serving them; to express their love for them by doing things for them. Actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing the dishes, sorting the bills, walking the dog or dealing with landlords are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. I’m not saying become a doormat to your partner and do these things out of guilt or resentment. No person should ever be a doormat. Do these things as a lover.

What is your love language?

Oh…. and for everyone who has asked, the totally cute custom labels are from It’s Mine & their iron on labels are the best! They do not come off! Hannah is wearing some of Ava’s hand me downs that still have the labels on them more than 2 years later!



  • Julia

    January 14, 2014 at 8:55 pm

    Oh I totally wrote out the names and I really don’t care if people think that my kids have a lazy Mommy! My Primary Love Language is a tie between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. Spend time with me, connect with me and tell me nice things about me. Clearly I am VERY high maintenance!

  • Pandora

    January 14, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    Yip, that’s me, I am all about acts of service is seems. I realize it’s the love language in our home. We do things for each other, even little things. So yes, I ironed the cute little labels on. Also I have awful handwriting. Things would get lost.

  • Mrs FF

    January 14, 2014 at 11:37 pm

    I would probably also iron on labels and not write just because I can be a bit OCD-ish about these type of things! And I hate ironing. I wore unironed clothes for 3 months just because I hate doing it. I got creative with making my clothes look smooth 😉

  • Ankia

    January 15, 2014 at 4:42 am

    Wow! I’ve never thought of it before but it’s exactly the same for me 🙂 Although, with regards to the label ironing it’s compulsory at James’ school to use their labels which has the coat of arms on too. But with other things, exactly me labouring for love.

  • Laura-kim le Roux

    January 15, 2014 at 5:57 am

    My love language is quality time 🙂 Every year I have every intention of buying labels because they look so nice but it never works out like that for a host of reasons. I will admit I now don’t label clothing anymore – only the stationery I send back to the teacher. The sad thing is the labels don’t seem to stop it going missing unfortunately!

    Having said all of this I LOVE all the cute labels I have seen going around and maybe by the time Jack and baby get to Gr 0 I will be more organised :))

  • Rene

    January 15, 2014 at 8:05 am

    I don’t mind ironing, but because I’m so disorganised I labelled one thing….and then missplaced the labels. That was 2 years ago and still haven’t found it.

    What I did realise though is marking makes no difference. If either kids goes to school with anything nice (expensive jackets, nice shoes etc) I never see it again.

  • bluebirdscrapper75

    January 15, 2014 at 9:26 am

    I am behind you on this one. I have the same pack of labels, which I ordered for Isabella at the beginning of 2012 when she started school. I just didn’t get ’round to ironing on the labels because like you, I DESPISE ironing. Wanna torture me? Have me do ironing. Not because I don’t enjoy it …. because I’m such a damn perfectionist that it takes 30 mins plus to iron a shirt…. It brings out a very “demonic” side of my OCD.
    I must ‘speak’ the same love language as you, TBH. That whole quote that you’ve put here? THAT is what I am looking forward to MOST when I ‘retire’. THAT is what I want out of my life. Not being a poppie or a kept woman or anything else. I am going to be at home so that I can SERVE MY FAMILY. Because I feel that it is my calling. I KNOW that it will complete me.

  • Mash

    January 15, 2014 at 10:41 am

    My love language that I give naturally like yours, is acts of service. I love expressing love that way, and I think to some degree it’s innate for women, we’re naturally wired that way. The love language that I like to receive is quality time.

    With the love languages thing, the hardest part for me is actually giving in someone else’s love language. Like gifts do nothing for me, and so I also don’t get excited about giving them!

  • Robyn

    January 15, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    You know Shaz, my mother used to painstakingly do things like this for me, and sew me things at the complete last minute (even if it meant she sewed right through the night) because I saw it in a magazine and I wanted it NOW, and bake cookies and tarts so that we had delicious treats to eat when we got home from school and while I didn’t appreciate it much as a child, it has always stayed with me as an adult. Even now, she does so many acts for me and my family – in an act of service – and it truly means more to me as an adult, than I am even able to put into words. You are awesome, lady. And Ava will love you for it. xx

    ps: personally I would have taken the easy way out!!


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