I’m 10 Weeks & Craving Jelly Tots! (not)

And unless you live in a little, dark, cave somewhere, you probably knew I was joking right? I suppose, if you live in a little, dark, cave somewhere you probably won’t be reading this and you have no idea about this FB campaign to raise awareness for breast cancer.

The campaign has caused quite a stir and I see there is a lot of blogging about this topic. When I first started seeing similar status updates on people’s FB accounts, I initially got all excited for them thinking they were pregnant. But as more and more of these types of statuses appeared I twigged that it must be some kind of awareness campaign.

I did note that not one of my friends participating in the campaign thought to include me on the inside “joke” and to be honest I’m glad they didn’t. Imagine seeing “I’m 10 weeks & craving Jelly Tots” as my status? Me who’s never gone beyond 7 weeks of pregnancy, me who has been openly and honestly fertility challenged with my friends and family. Imagine all the messages of congratulations and yay, you’ve finally made it, followed by the statement sure to come: “I told you if you adopted you’d get pregnant” and the whole can of worms that would open from those not aware of this campaign.

Imagine the deafening silence which would follow my “just kidding” response?

I’m glad none of my friends tried to include me in this, IMO, silly campaign. I think for me to participate would firstly be in bad taste and secondly, I think it would hurt me to put something up as my status, something which will never be true for me.

I read a very interesting article on this new “fake pregnancy” breast cancer awareness campagin, one written from the angle of infertility and it really struck a chord with me.  You can read it here. I personally know a few women walking the sad and difficult path of infertility due to cancer and/or cancer treatment. I really do wonder how they feel about this campaign?

My other issue with the campaign, as well meaning as it may be, is this: I’m quite sure that the majority of women who use FB are breast cancer aware. I don’t believe these types of campaigns hit the targets they’re aiming for. I feel quite sure that the women who need to be made aware of the dangers, pitfalls and checks for breast cancer are not using FB.

My last issue with this campaign is one of those “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” scenario’s. I’m glad I was not included in it. I’m glad that my friends had the forethought and common sense not to include me in something that has the potential to hurt me, but on the other side, it’s yet another side of the coin where, I will always be excluded from certain things, no matter how trivial or silly, because of the alternative path I’ve been placed on.


  • Beth

    September 6, 2011 at 3:37 pm

    Hate this campaign. Its silly and really hurtful to those of us who have had cancer. Even my sister participated, some people are so ignorant.

  • Gwen

    September 6, 2011 at 3:54 pm

    I’m getting a little oversaturated with awareness campaigns in general. Awareness only helps when people can use their newfound awareness to change something. Otherwise it’s just a kind of Mexican wave that goes around and around and once it’s over it’s as if it never happened.

  • Hayley

    September 6, 2011 at 5:32 pm

    So glad you wrote this post…I’ve never quiet understood the point…I get that there is well meaning behind it, but is any action actually being done by these people. Unless I am missing something…

  • Marcia (123 blog)

    September 6, 2011 at 6:55 pm

    I just don’t get things like this – I would rather someone put a well-thought out status update quoting a statistic or asking for help raising money, etc. than these things.

    Love your post by the way and yes, joking about pregnancy for me (and many like us) is simply not that funny!

  • Roz

    September 6, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    You said it Shaz…I was invited to participate and I very quickly deleted. As M says, it’s not funny for those of us who have travelled the infertility journey. Not funny at all.

  • To Love Bella

    September 7, 2011 at 6:59 am

    It is – quite simply – ridiculous. I don’t expect people to walk on eggshells around me, but I do expect that those who know me and a bit of my history NOT to send me such crap. I did get one invitation from someone who knows my story well enough to have thought for herself. It was a bloody thoughtless incentive.

  • Nisey

    September 7, 2011 at 8:13 am

    My opinion isn’t even based on an infertiity viewpoint. A new life is a beautiful and amazing blessing and I’ve seen people commenting on these posts so happy for the ‘mum to be’ and genuinely expressing emotions only to look a fool when they realise the truth – do you think they will respond genuinely to the next pregnancy announcement?

    Its a bit of Peter and the wolf IMO and in very very bad taste.

    Maybe my viewpoint will however always be skewed by infertility and thats why I feel that way???

  • nickistormdadic

    September 7, 2011 at 8:37 am

    I think this “campaign” along with last year’s one, is pathetic. How is it raising awareness? Is anything happening because of these stupid status updates? And yes … crying wolf (no matter how innocent it seems) is ALWAYS a bad idea! Nice post 🙂

  • St. Elsewhere

    September 7, 2011 at 2:49 pm

    That campaign was not intended to be anything but funny. Yet it so managed to loop in infertility with it and failed to address its supposed purpose totally. How lame is that!

    Also, I understand what you are saying about not-included. Of course, you are glad that no one sent you that meme, but it hurts to know you weren’t considered to be ‘in’.


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