Kids Party Preparation

Five more sleeps! Sounds like I’m excited, but I’m not really. Its my nephew’s 5th bithday today. Its his birthday party on Saturday. I love the little guy so much, so it probably sounds awful to say, but I’m dreading the party. As his Tannie Sharon, as one half of his legal guardian, I have to attend, I want to be there for our special boy but I feel apprehensive and tearful and anxious at the thought of it. I know exactly what’s going to happen, I’ve done this every year for the past 5 years. We’ll arrive, we’ll be the only childless couple there, we’ll be looked at with great pity, there may even be some whispering. Somebody will undoubtedly be there with a new born or small baby and I’ll be called over, either just to look or I will be called over and told to hold the baby because its good for me and my fertility. Ha as if  being fertile were contagious! If ONLY being fertilewere contagious! Then either Ouma (granny) Marie or Ouma Katie will sit on the opposite side of the room, lookat me pointedly and shout across for all to hear: “So Sharon, are you pregnant yet?” or “So what’s happening with having a baby” or “Ouma is lief vir jou en bid vir julle” (Granny loves you and is praying for you). God give me strength to get through this.

Of course, once a everyone has settled and perhaps had one or two drinks, well, you all know what happens. Suddenly they all become fertility experts with news of ground break, gauranteed to NOT fail treatments like Clomid. Of course my favorite 5 letter word is going to get thrown about considerably, its the R-word…….. RELAX!!!!!!!!! Some of the more brazen men will do both W and I the great insult of saying stuff like: “Come over here and I’ll show you how its done!” OMG!

We’ll also be told my other favorite thing, which is to not worry so much, they just KNOW its going to happen for us. Really? Psychic are we? Got your Crystal ball out?

When its finally time to leave I can also predict what will happen. We’re going to get into the car, W is going to ask me if I’m ok and I’m going to burst into tears. The only thing that’s going to make me feel any better will be a Gigantic chocolate!

Wish me luck!

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  • Reply samcy

    I say get sloshed at the party! AND have a stash of chocolate and tissues in the car for when you leave!

    Thinking of you!

    September 22, 2008 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply Michelle

    Great idea Sam!! I second that one!! Always in my thoughts.

    September 22, 2008 at 2:20 pm
  • Reply Joni

    Hey Shaz Honey!! I totally agree with Sam and will be thinking of you! It is soo tough and remember you’re allowed to deal with it the way you feel best! Don’t feel obliged…..

    September 22, 2008 at 2:59 pm
  • Reply eggorchicken

    Big hugs and loads of luck!!!

    September 22, 2008 at 4:12 pm
  • Reply Stacey

    I LOVE that you started this post with how many more “sleeps.” Both of my nephews count down to fun things that way, and I adore those boys! Fortunately, we’re always there for their birthday parties and it’s always just family. But I certainly have been to some awkward parties and felt on display as the childless couple. I hope it goes ok for you. Just focus on that sweet nephew and tune out everything else! (If that doesn’t work, bring on the tears and chocolate!)

    September 22, 2008 at 5:55 pm
  • Reply Dora

    Ouch! Agreeing with others about alcohol and chocolate for coping.

    I recently decided to handle a family event by accepting and planning to have a migraine that day. It’s just easier.


    September 22, 2008 at 6:45 pm
  • Reply Becky

    I’m with Samcy. I’d get completely hammered before you go and swig from a flask anytime someone says stupid stuff to you. Here from ICLW and I wish you the best of luck on Saturday.

    September 23, 2008 at 3:22 am
  • Reply Jenn

    Sending chocolate thoughts your way (ICLW)

    September 23, 2008 at 3:43 am
  • Reply babysmiling

    Ugh. I have posted several times about dreading family events, but at least there are no children’s birthday parties for us yet within the family. Friends are another story, but with less potential for horror.

    Feel free to hide in the kitchen “helping” or in the backyard blowing up balloons or anywhere else that you can get away with, if you need to avoid the questions and pressure. Or, drinking works too.

    Good luck!!

    September 24, 2008 at 5:21 am
  • Reply Elize

    Ag no man, I agree with the rest of the girls. Get drunk, eat chocolates and hide in the kitchen.

    September 24, 2008 at 6:17 am
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