Learning How To Be A Cool Cat & Not A Stressed Out Mama!

It was the 16th December 2009, 3 days after Ava was born, when IT happened. When I realized I balanced precariously on the balance board of being a concerned mother versus a paranoid mom. We’d woke up early that morning as we had our flight back to Jozi later that morning. Ava was sleeping and I’d packed up all our stuff and was getting ready to go to the airport. I decided to top and tail Ava and change her before flying home. What I found in her nappy frightened the living crapsticks out of me. Yellow, mushy, smushy, stinky, squidgy poo complete with a long strand of mucus which appeared to be coming out of her donsie!


In the car, hazard’s flashing, high tail it to Constantiaberg Medi Clinic!

Finally get to see the pediatrician on call…..

She casually strolls in, opens Ava’s nappy, looks at us, smiles and says:

“Oh my… you really are new parents aren’t you?!”


So it turns out that what we had assumed was some horrible form of diarrhea that was bound to cause dehydration and hospitalization was in fact….. her first normal poo after passing the Meconium!  (this is what happens when you have a 6 day pregnancy! Totally CLUELESS!)

Since then I’ve had to work hard at not being an overly neurotic mother and trust me, when you’re a naturally anxious person, finding the balance between being neurotic and caring for ones child can be really quite hard.

So last night when Walter called me to come and look at the rash on Ava’s back, I tried not to panic. I casually inspected her spotty back and noticed that it is also on her stomach.

Naturally my first thought is German Measles! But I’m trying to tell myself that I’m being ridiculous! Her vaccinations are all up to date and she does not appear to be ill, be out of sorts or have even a hint of fever. I did of course rewash all of he new spencers in case it’s that that is causing this reaction but as you can imagine, I am a little concerned and wandering what has caused the rash!

Instead, I’m going to try and distract myself with these gorgeous photo’s of my beautiful girl.

We’re going through a phase where she copies EVERYTHING I do, hence this photo!
So are you a paranoid mama or a real cool cat? Sometimes I feel very foolish about the conclusions I jump to and the things I worry about! So make me feel better… pahleeeze?


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  • Reply Laura

    The rash could be because it’s so dry – maybe get some excema cream from Leigh!

    I am generally quiet chilled but let one of my kids vomit and I turn into a freak – I panic and get hysterical – really can’t even tell you why!

    May 30, 2012 at 7:15 am
  • Reply Kim Brooks

    Chicken pox or hives?

    May 30, 2012 at 7:20 am
  • Reply Julia

    I would say I’m a bit of both. It really depends WHICH child we are talking about. With Child1, not so much. With Child2 A LOT. Because he has this tendency to not look as sick as he really is and then SUDDENLY deteriorate. I have spent MANY nights in hospitals with him.
    I usually panic about fevers and vomit and diarrhea. And with Child2 I ALWAYS panic when his breathing is laboured as he has a history of respiratory issues. Skin conditions, not so much. But that’s probably because Child2 has eczema and we treat a rash quickly.
    The rash could be anything really. Have you changed your washing powder or fabric softener? Was it the first time that she was wearing THAT particular fabric? Could she have eaten something very acidic?
    Tranquil Body Treats eczema cream is FANTASTIC and I would HIGHLY recommend it.

    May 30, 2012 at 8:08 am
  • Reply Julia

    Yoh! I have been struggling to comment. Soooo happy that it took this time!

    May 30, 2012 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Melinda

    Hmmm…I would love to tell you that I am not a paranoid Mom, but I would be lying. I have been know to shake Jada awake at night if I feel she is breathing too shallow. But then, on the other hand, I let her play on the big kids toys at the park. She swings on a normal swing and goes down the big slides. As for the rash, just watch it for a day or too. I have become used to rashes (Jadakins suffers from eczema). If it is not preceeded by a temperature or vomitting, it is general nothing to be concerned about. Apply extra body lotion and make sure she drinks lots of water.
    And it is okay to be a paranoid Mom as long as you know the boundaries….when it comes to health issues, there is never such a thing as a paranoid Mom…smile

    May 30, 2012 at 8:30 am
  • Reply Em's Mommy

    i am a paronoid mommy! any little thing i assume the worst and rush her to the paed or the casuality

    May 30, 2012 at 8:48 am
  • Reply cat@jugglingact

    Oh I am, but it depends what child and about what – one learns their problem areas. My other two can cough and cough and I will eb fine, C gives one caough and I haul out the asthma pump and the nebulizer.

    Anyways, the rash can be anything -w atch out for fever, even a low one. And yes, although they were innocluated they can still get it – although very light. A and C had German measels last year and both developed bronchitus from it.

    May 30, 2012 at 10:18 am
  • Reply Jenny

    I had to laugh that you rushed off to the paed for a runny poo. Everyday I get letters from panicked moms about the poos their babies are making. It seems we are just unprepared for what a normal poo looks like. I remember working at heat mag when I had Dyl and thinking I have gone from googling Britney Spears Divorce to Mustard Seed Poo. LOL!

    May 30, 2012 at 12:06 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Thankfully the pead on call took pity on us, especially after we shared our story with her of how recently and how suddenly we became parents and she gave a Ava a full check up for FREE! 🙂

      Anyways, the rash seems to be better today and I think I know what caused it – I bought Ava new winter spencers from Woolies and she wore one yesterday that I hadn’t washed yet. I can only assume it was that because her skin is very sensitive!

      May 30, 2012 at 12:09 pm
  • Reply Joni

    I’m a Stressed Out Mommy slowly turning into a Coool Cat as Adam has pretty bad Asthma & continually has croup, I’m continually freaking out when he breathes funny or starts coughing…. like he is now! I have the pump, nebuliser and humidifier within easy reach…. I used to rush him off to the Doc everytime he seemed ill but am starting to cut back on those unneccesary visits and assess his symptoms.

    I do however wake up all random hours of the night just to check he is still breathing and if he is sick I don’t sleep at all and usually sneak him into our bed just to catch a few hours shut eye if I’m desperate….

    May 30, 2012 at 12:16 pm
  • Reply Lisa-Marie

    The thing is that it could be so many things! An allergic reaction to food / drink / soap / clothes / washing powder / fabric softener… Or just a heat rash… or perhaps she was rolling on the grass…
    I stress out like a freakazoid when anything is amiss with Isabella – I’m sure it’s quite normal. Don’t let a day go by where she’s not made a poo… I barely sleep that night.
    Thank goodness for my more chilled husband…

    May 30, 2012 at 12:34 pm
  • Reply Sian

    Paranoid!!!!! Definately! Jayden has a cold at the moment and I find myself being very over protective. Will I let Ethel look after him ….NO! He must be with his mommy (or daddy) at all times in case ‘something’ happens…….like a sneeze or something.

    May 30, 2012 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply Sue Stuart

    I’m so paranoid! And hubby is just as bad 🙂

    May 30, 2012 at 2:34 pm
  • Reply TJ

    Well, with my 1st I was very paranoid. Sterilized till 9 months. Avoided sick people and smokers (I still try avoid smokers). I was very anal and analysed and assessed EVERY little change.
    Now with our 2nd we know a bit better and are able to understand small changes and not have to rush off to the Dr every time. Far more at ease and relaxed with the 2nd child. But I’m still quite protective and try avoid as much hurt and discomfort as possible.

    Glad it wasn’t German Measles!

    May 30, 2012 at 9:05 pm
  • Reply blackhuff

    I like to think of myself as in between. Some situations make me paranoid while others I can be a very cool cat. Depends totally on the situation at hand.

    May 31, 2012 at 2:34 pm
  • Reply Sharon

    I wouldn’t say I’m paranoid but I definitely err on the side of caution. My “gut instinct” has saved me on many occasions and proven right every time without exception.
    Remember they can still get measles, german mealses etc even if they have had the vaccination, it will just be a much milder form than if they had not been vaccinated.

    May 31, 2012 at 3:10 pm
  • Reply Sue Griffiths

    Estoril books, and others, I am sure , have a very good book called ‘What is that rash?. It is really helpful. With the publicity whenever there is a Meningitis scare, we do get nervous about rashes!

    May 31, 2012 at 7:54 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Gah! I didn’t even think about Meningitis! Just another thing to stress/obsess/worry about! 😉

      May 31, 2012 at 8:04 pm

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