Living Our New Normal

Our lives have been turned upside down by the sudden and miraculous arrival of our beautiful daughter. And while we’re still in awe of the beautiful gift we have been given, I am not going to lie, being a new mom is hard. I, along with all my IF sisters, have, for years, wondered what crossing over would be like? What it would feel like? And while I tried living vicariously through others successes, nothing could have prepared me for just how tough being a new mom would be.

We’ve had baptism by fire these past few weeks, we’ve survived and figured out our way through jaundice, thrush, stomach cramps, constipation and it has not been easy. It has been hideously stressful to see your baby cry/scream in pain and writhe with the stomach cramps and not know what to do to help her.  The worst times so far have been the middle of the nights, at one point, our night time ritual got so bad that I started getting anxious as the sun would begin setting, just knowing what was lying ahead. Our little darling has battled cramps, always between 9pm and 5am. This has meant little to no sleep at times and the more tired I became the more stressed I felt about our little sausage and the more stressed I got, the more she seemed to sense it and in turn the more stressed she’d become. On the advice of those who’d been before, we tried changing her formula which only resulted in a case of constipation and eventually in desperation, me having to assist her in relieving herself after almost 2 days of no poo’s.  Eventually in desperation in the middle of the night sometime last week, we called the 24 hour pharmacy at our local clinic. You see, everyone has been advising us to use Bennett Colic & Crap remedy. The only problem is that there was no dosage for babies under one month and on closer inspection, I noted that one of the key ingredients was Bella Donna and I was way to afraid to simple give my baby a dose of the medicine. But the pharmacy calmed my fears and assured me that given that her weight was now in excess of 3.5kg’s, that it was safe to use on the lowest dose and I cannot tell you what a difference the medication has made, not just for our little sausage, but also for W and I.

We went from averaging about 2 hours of sleep at night to now getting around 8 hours of sleep at night. No more cramps for Sausage. We’ve changed our evening routine around, she now has a nice warm, soothing (not – she hates being bathed) and then she gets a dose of Bennetts with her late evening feed and her middle of the night feed, about 10 minutes before her bottie. What a difference it has made. No more cramps and Sausage is now sleeping like a dream. She’s also feeding really well and is now weighting about 3.8kg’s, she’s gained a kg since birth. She’s just past the 3 week mark and has also started skipping one of her night time feeds. She’s feeding more but less often which is wonderful. Last night, as an example, we gave her a bottie at 7pm and she slept till 1am when we gave her another bottle and then she slept till 7am. What a pleasure indeed.

Of course, the past 3 weeks would have been far more difficult if it weren’t for my darling mother, who has been by my side every day bar 4 days between our arrival back in Jo’burg and her coming up from Cape Town for Christmas. She’s been kind and patient and oh so helpful. On the nights when W and I were completely frazzled, she patiently sat up with Sausage, rocking her gently and holding her tightly while she was wracked by cramps, sending W and I off to bed to get an hour of two of sleep. Yesterday, she went back home and now we face our new lives, from today we start living our new normal. We start finding our new routine, from today, its you and me and baby makes three.

And in closing, a photo of Sausage on her 3 week birthday, wearing the cutes little outfit that my cousin bought back from London for her – could I be any more blessed?

Sausage @ 3 weeks

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  • Reply Lea White

    Before you know it the days of cramps and things will pass. The beginning parts are always hard. But you will soon find your new normal and your new routines. Yes, parenthood is hard. But it is also hugely rewarding – you just wait for that very first smile…

    January 4, 2010 at 9:58 am
  • Reply Rach

    No you couldn’t my friend, well unless you had two Ava’s.

    January 4, 2010 at 11:44 am
  • Reply Denise

    LOL, a little diva in the making!!! Stunning!

    January 4, 2010 at 12:05 pm
  • Reply Adi

    Snort… sorry, it’s just that Bennett Colic & Crap remedy – I assume the last bit is added? Very funny! lol. Can’t wait for my own sausage, cramps-‘n-all. Well done with sorting so many things out so fast. Will make sure I also stock up on that Crap Remedy beforehand… 😀

    January 4, 2010 at 1:05 pm
  • Reply Gail

    She is gorgeous! Congrats! Glad you have figured out the cure for the cramps!!

    January 4, 2010 at 2:20 pm
  • Reply Ab

    Awwww, that outfit is too cute man Shaz! Busy catching up on all I’ve missed over the hols. All seems heavenly on your end my friend! Counting the days till I get to meet the little angel! xxx

    January 4, 2010 at 2:31 pm
  • Reply Hanneke

    Ahhhhhhhh the little outfit is the cutest thing……. i pray that your blessings just keep pouring in !!

    January 4, 2010 at 2:56 pm
  • Reply Yvonne

    So, so happy for you Shaz. Despite the rough times you just come across as being so content.

    Ava is BEAUTIFUl. I cannot WAIT for you to post about her first smile – that’s when everything starts truly going uphill.

    HUGS !!!


    January 4, 2010 at 7:30 pm
  • Reply Hollie

    She is just beautiful! You are doing well, Mom! We all worry that we are doing the right thing. To start off, HM would only poo every other day. This was his norm. Then he began at about 6 weeks going once a day. Then if he had issues, cramping and such, we gave him KARO syrup? do you have that in SA? We put about 1 teaspoon in 3 oz of formula (I think thats about how much he was eating at the time.) We got the dark kind. But if this stuff you are using works now, by all means, keep with it!
    YOu are doing great. Im so glad that we now BOTH know what its like to be on the other side. AND TRULY pray for our sisters still raging the battle. You deserve so much happiness, and I know, through the sleepless nights, you are truly happy! Hug the “sausage” for me! ;o)

    January 5, 2010 at 12:14 am
  • Reply Dee

    Had to laugh at – “Bennett Colic & Crap remedy” ha ha 🙂

    Ava is stunning!

    January 5, 2010 at 10:05 am
  • Reply Zeu

    Such a (insert Smeagol voice) Precious!

    January 5, 2010 at 1:54 pm
  • Reply SCY

    I love this photo of her! SO so cute! And Bennets colic and crap? Whoa, the dudes who created that are CLEVA 😉


    January 5, 2010 at 8:12 pm
  • Reply mariette

    Sy is pragtig!!!!
    lekker pop speel julle verdien dit!!

    January 5, 2010 at 11:34 pm
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